Scan at 7+2, only measuring 5/6 weeks

[Bubble77bee]

Just went for a private scan today (after a MMC in May where they discovered an empty sac at 12 weeks). There was a 2mm fetal pole but no heartbeat, and the lady who did the scan said it looked more 5-6 weeks. I hate the question “are you sure about your dates?”. Not looking hopeful, but now I will have to go to the EPU on Monday. Anyone else experienced similar?

Thanks rainbow, its surprising they won’t scan you. Wishing you better luck! X

I’ve felt different today-less bleugh and less tired. Seem to have got my appetite back too. I’m taking this as another sign that maybe the baby has stopped developed and a MMC might be happening.

Oh hon, sorry to hear that but that’s exactly how I felt over the weekend. Sending you hugs.

Went back for my scan today. The foetal pole had barely grown, but there was a very feint heartbeat this time. The sonography and midwives all agreed that this is not going to be a viable pregnancy, but I can’t have surgery tomorrow as there is now a heartbeat. So we’ve got to wait it out over Christmas and go for another scan next Thursday.

Should have added that I am now 8+4 and the foetal pole is about 5mm. Feel really in limbo. Part of me is of course glad not to be going in for surgery tomorrow, but i’m Terrified of starting to miscarry naturally while we’re away over Christmas. I had a MMC at 12/13 weeks last year, so I am just hoping that miscarrying naturally is unlikely.

I was thinking about you earlier- I’m so sorry to hear this and that it hasn’t been clear cut for you. Will you be away with family? Have the hospital made any practical suggestions? Do PM me if you want to talk. Sending you hugs!

I'm so sorry

Oh @Bubble77bee, I'm so sorry. I was in a similar situation - very very slow growth, but eventually a heartbeat developed at around 7 weeks. Nobody was willing to say to me that it wasn't a viable pregnancy so I had a scan a week until eventually the heartbeat stopped at 11+5, and I had an ERPC two weeks later (there's a long waiting time for ERPC here in NI).

It was my first pregnancy and I really wish one of the sonographers or midwives had just told me it wasn't going to work out - I knew that myself, inwardly, but DH and our family insisted on remaining positive and it was just torturous. The worst time of my life.

I'm so, so sorry you're going through this - I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

If it's of any comfort, that was back in October 2016 and I'm now 35 weeks into an uneventful and healthy pregnancy. Will be wishing the same for you.

Thank you for all your kind messages. It’s such a strange feeling, knowing that there is an embryo trying so hard to make it. Peach- it was really useful to hear of your experience. This all makes me wonder about the benefits, or not, of early scans. But I still think I would rather know earlier that things are not looking good, rather than find out at the 12 week scan like last time. We’re staying at a hotel over Christmas, but spending the day itself at a family member’s house. None of my family know about the pregnancy.

@Bubble77bee Yes, in hindsight I found it much easier to cope with knowing things were likely to go wrong than it being a horrible shock at my 12 week scan. Also it's so rare to be in our position - people kept telling me the odds of hanging a successful pregnancy after seeing a heartbeat etc etc which obviously wasn't helpful but for most women, having an early scan where a heartbeat is detected really IS a good sign. Not that it makes our situation easier. But I did opt for an early scan this time and it did help.

I really hope Christmas isn't too awful for you. We're all here if you need a vent or a handhold.

Sorry, HAVING not hanging.

@Bubble77bee I'm so sorry you have had this experience. It is shitty no matter how what stage it happens. I noticed you live in Bristol. My cousin is a gynaecologist at Bath and they have a walk in centre there for early pregnancy. Just useful information for you so you don't need to have a private scan again ❤️