Totally, completely fed up

[aquasea]

Hi everyone,

I don't know why I am writing this, just need to get it off my chest. I am 34 and a half weeks preg, feeling huge, seem to have elephantitis of the ankles/legs/hands, have to inject anticoagulant twice a day, pelvis is agony and recently developed carpal tunnel syndrome... I know, I know, that's pregnancy for you and hey, I will get a beautiful little baby out of all this... I have been coping very well. Things have been stressful, moving house, buying furniture, legal issues (I won't bore you) but my problem (and hence this moany post!) is that all my friends and family just seem to expect me to do stuff for them. No one offers me any help at all. For example, when I was moving, my sister said she'd help (she lived 5 mins down the road) but then didn't answer her phone all weekend. They expect me to always go to them if I want to see them. Oh God, I sound so awful and "poor me" writing this it's just that I am completely at the end of my teather and have been crying and crying about it all. Probably hormones, right? Anyway, for anyone else heavily pregnant (and I now fully understand why they call it that!!) and fed up... feeling your pain, sister!

Aqua xx

Poor you
The end is in sight though

Think everyone gets to that point where they've had enough.
This point was where I opened the choc, cracked open weepy movies (for a genuine excuse to cry) and curled up under our fleecy blanket. And emotionally blackmailed my dh to cook the tea.
As PFNM says though, not much longer .....

Thanks ladies. It helps just to hear that everyone gets to this point! The choc and weepy movies sounds great. Think I might just give in and flop on the sofa today.
xx

It is amazing how you can feel so desperately fed up when you know that it can't possibly go on longer than a certain amount of time, this is from someone who was lucky enough to deliver at 39 1/2 weeks but still experienced extreme fed upness.

I think your family sound like they are not being supportive enough, but you know what it's like - people get busy and then forget to think of others. If I were you, I'd spend from now to birth pampering yourself, and supporting yourself, doing all the things you want like eating chocolate or having 4 baths a day or whatever makes you happy. Stuff them! and PLEASE don't feel guilty about feeling the way you do. I'm a big believer in the fact that generally people aren't nice enough to themselves. xx

Whilst you are lying around pampering yourself, could you make a list of all the things that you would like to be done to help you out after the birth and think which members of your family could do what.
That way you can exact your revenge after the birth.

Hi aquasea,

I too am 35 weeks pregnant. I have been so miserable these past few weeks (baby is breech so her head is in my ribs and it hurts!!!), I have been working full time with a long commute and have had two older children to look after.

All of a sudden yesterday, my mood lifted (probably got a lot to do with the fact that today is my last day at work).

Keep your chin up - your mood will will lift when you least expect it.

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Hey aquasea, I can totally sympathise. Am 32 wks and also expected to visit family if i want to see them (parents and both sisters live over an hour away). Feeling like i need my mum all the time, but feel like she is wondering why i phone her ALL the time for no apparent reason.
The kitchen extension still hasn't started and dh seems totally baffled at my hysteria on this subject (I broke down in tears over it yesterday!).
Also feeling like there are a million things to buy / get ready before lo arrives, and no one helping out here either..
dh away for weekend so going to say sod it to it all and indulge in suggested pampering by you ladies..
Feel better now that MY rant is over...