Pregnancy worries

[User1983]

I suffer from anxiety which was previously controlled by medication which I stopped once we started TTC.

I’m pregnant and every day am finding something else to worry about every day to the point it consumes me.

I know I will love my child regardless of any issues but I can’t stop worrying. My current concern is that my baby is measuring 2 weeks ahead at 30 weeks pregnant and am being tested for diabetes. Everyone keeps joking that I am having quads and the abdominal circumference at the 20 week scan was large. I have stupidly googled and see there are studies showing that large growth leads to an increased risk of autism. I have also been under enormous emotional stress during this pregnancy and haven’t been eating nutritous meals. Did anyone have similar problems? Also, are these early signs of autism? I sometimes think this all consuming worry means I’m not cut out to have children as I can’t imgaine the worry will stop but I am convinced that the signs I described above are worrying.

Firstly, cut yourself some slack lovely, the worry is NORMAL! Your hormones are actually going haywire, and this should settle. Secondly, I was MASSIVE when I was pregnant with my daughter (which turned out to be mainly water, but she was a biggun, (perfect though!), and they wrote a word (sorry, cannot remember it now!) on my notes when I was pregnant with my eldest son too, and when I asked what it meant the Doctor smiled and said it meant his head was a bit bigger than the rest of him. I went into worry overdrive, but my Doc put me at ease and said the rest would no doubt catch up. Honestly, it looked like my boy was all head, but when he came out he was perfect proportionally!
Being a mum is worrying, but this settles, I promise. However, if all the stress is consuming you on a daily basis, I would go to your midwife or Doctor, whoever you prefer, and let them know. Its a hard time, your body is working overtime, your mind thinks up situations you would never have before dreamed of, its harder to sleep, making you more stressed and tired, and life can be bloody hard.
All you need to know it, you are worrying so much about your baby already, and that to me, sounds just like a Mum! You can do this, I promise, and it will get easier. So much so, I went on and had four more!!! :-)

Thank you so much for the reply...it’s so nice to hear from mums who have gone through the same thing.

I am thinking I need to relax more and might even take maternity leave early just to focus on that!
Thanks for your help :-)

I measured 2 weeks ahead and my midwife said that it wasn't a concerning measurement. Any more than that then yes it would be a worry.