Struggling

[lilliannrose]

Hi ladies, could really do with some moral support. I am 22 and 10 weeks pregnant with my first child but i feel so miserable. I know i shouldn't and I feel guilty but just feel utterly rough. I find I am struggling to keep things down to the point I have lost interest in eating and drinking and my energy levels are quite low to the point I just don't want to do anything. 😪
People keep saying it starts getting better at around 12 weeks but it seems ages away. 😭😭😭

Congratulations, firstly :) but you poor thing! I know everyone's different, but the first 12 weeks really were the hardest for me. I felt much better after they had passed. Have you been to your doctor, maybe they can offer advice? Take all the help you can, and don't feel guilty for resting whenever you have the chance.

@mamalovesmojitos hey! Thanks. I am seeing the midwife for my booking appointment on Wednesday so will discuss with her how I am feeling and my current situation. Just praying it gets better ASAP.

Great. Don't worry about being off your food too much (pregnancy was the only time in my life I went off food!) but do try and eat little bites of what you like. Do you have good support around you, people to help plump up pillows and make you tea?

Oh, and do not feel guilty for feeling miserable! You re growing a new human being! It takes a huge amount of energy.

@mamalovesmojitos yeah! Surprisingly enough I have had quite an appetite today but starting to feel a bit sick now. 🤢 I have noticed too that I have been producing extra saliva which doesn't help the nausea and sickness either. Did you have that as well?

@mamalovesmojitos ...,and does it stop at any point?

@lilliannrose

I feel like a wrote this myself! I'm 8 weeks pregnant and having the worst time ever!! I am sick 24 hours a day...
And have been for 3 weeks now.

I don't have the energy to even get out of bed most days and just sit around getting more miserable and feeling sorry for myself.

Food and water doesn't stay down. I'm sick stomach acid all the time and have had the worst stomach ache too!

I'm crying daily because this is not how I wanted it to be.

Sending hugs to you xx

I’m in exactly the same boat. The extra saliva is driving me nuts! It’s so difficult some days I just want to stay in bed. Keeping everything crossed that things calm down ASAP. I’m 10 weeks and 4 days.

@lilliannrose please don’t feel guilty! I felt exactly the same, I cried a lot and felt completely overwhelmed with everything that was happening. I found just being honest with the people around me really helped, you’ll find you are not the only person to feel like this. You are growing a tiny human-it’s far from easy.
I am now 24 weeks and honestly the last 10 weeks have flown by. Just make sure you get lots of sleep, drinks lots of fluid and perhaps go for a short walk in the evenings-it can help clear your head! Keep your head up, you are doing a grand job xxx

I was exactly the same, feeling shocking, hated how my body was changing (discharge, extra saliva all over the pillow while i was sleeping, yum) and at the same time feeling guilty that i wasn't loving being pregnant as it's so special! I was a nightmare to live with up until about 15 weeks.
But honestly that first 12 week scan pushes you on and then you start to feel less shit, then you start to look forward to the 20 week scan. I'm 26 weeks now and although I still moan about all my aches and pains (currently sat making OH rub my swollen ankles) its totally worth it to watch my tummy jump when baby spends all night kicking.
Hang in there and don't feel guilty, it's hard work and you never appreciate how hard until you go through it

Definately don’t feel guilty about feeling rough and not enjoying pregnancy, all of your energy is going towards growing a baby and your immune system is really low, any food or water you keep down is being burned quicker with the constant work it takes to grow your baby. Not every woman breezes through pregnancy and not every woman loves being pregnant so you’re not alone at all! Try to eat little and often as that should help a bit more with feeling sick, if you’ve got bad sickness doctors (or midwife) should be able to prescribe anti sickness meds. The first 12 weeks are extremely hard but it does improve, I’m pretty sure I hibernated and napped at work through my first 12 weeks I had nothing in me to give except tears in a luke warm bath ahaha even that upset me... I couldn’t have a piping hot bath! Just remember it’s only temporary, you’re body is going through immense changes but it will end :) from about 12-25 weeks I felt great then it kind of went back down hill as everything starts getting heavy, ‘butterfly flutter’ movements turned into rib jabs and then at 39+5 I somehow got pre eclampsia haha!!! Congratulations OP, I really feel for you but I promise it does improve :) good luck!!

Thanks ladies for all your kind words of encouragement. I just keep thinking about the end goal....I know it'll be worth it in the end. I am back in bed chilling. Might have a nap again in a minute. Lol

Totally get you. I’m 10 weeks and have been working 11 days on the trot, 11-16 hours a day (self-employed). I am totally exhausted. I have been sick all day and just feel so drained.

Its utterly shit aint it?

Im working 2 jobs, full of cold and cant be arsed with anyone.

I need gin

It will get better. My morning sickness was worst week 10 and now at week 13 it's totally gone. Energy back as well. Feel much better.