Partner being distant?!

[leebee2017]

Sorry ladies, I just needed to get this off my chest!
I’m 37 weeks pregnant and haven’t had sex with BF since around 28 weeks - it’s caused a lot of arguments over the last 9-10 weeks because he thinks I’ve been ridiculous when I’ve just had no desire what so ever, it’s not like I’ve withheld sex, I just haven’t initiated it and he hasn’t even tried - nor made any effort in any way to initiate things!
Now I’m 37 weeks my sex drive has reappeared and I’ve been asking bf for sex every night for the last week, to which he’s always been too tired, but then stays awake for another hour playing games on his phone or watching TV. I already feel like a whale, I’m not a slim toned size 8 anymore but I’m fully aware of that! He says he’s still attracted to me but it doesn’t seem like it! He’s out with his friends once a weekend and doesn’t get home until gone 2am... even when he’s not drinking. It’s alright for him to stay up late when with the lads but can’t stay up past 10pm on any night (weekends, weeknights any nights!) with me, and if I mention sex before hand he just laughs it off leaving me feeling like utter crap to be honest! I’m sick of him pushing the blame of our sexless relationship onto me, then he doesn’t even seem to remember how to kiss me or cuddle me or touch me in anyway... he’s 100% not worried about baby either he’s made that clear enough in all his arguments, he knows sex is safe in pregnancy!
I’m feeling rubbish! No levels of oxytocin in my body what so ever, I just feel like sh*t!

Sorry you're going through this. I had big swings in libido while pregnant also. Is this your first? Perhaps impending fatherhood has him spooked.

Does he understand that once the baby comes there'll be no more late nights out drinking? Maybe that's bothering him as well.

You’re probably right @MissConductUS he’s probably spooked by the whole thing, he says he isn’t but then he’s hardly shown the slightest bit of interest in the last 9 months. Yes this will be our first, I’m really excited! Im just feeling really down at the moment because I feel like I’m trying to be superwoman whilst on maternity and get everything done, cleaning the house, doing the washing etc to stop him whining at me, then comes to weekend and he’s off out with his mates but can’t stay up past 10pm with me... how things have changed already!
he seems to say a lot ‘just because we’re having a baby doesn’t mean anything is going to change...’ he still thinks he can go on nights out and rock up at 4am... no chance I’ll stand for it!

he seems to say a lot ‘just because we’re having a baby doesn’t mean anything is going to change..

He is deeply in denial about it all. Everything is going to change. His avoidance of sex may be a subconscious rejection of his role in the pregnancy.

I would have a talk with him about all of the things that are going to change as far as you needing him there to help. Avoid the sex topic as I think that will straighten itself out and you'll be too tired most of the time anyway.

Good luck with the baby.

LeeBee2017, I should have said good luck with both of the babies.

@MissConductUS haha that made me laugh, both of the babies!
Thank you for your reply it’s much appreciated! I’ll have a few words with him tomorrow & avoid the sex topic. Let him enjoy yet another night out first.... he doesn’t even drink really that’s what makes it more frustrating!