DD 4months. Too early to try for number 2?

[Jodie567]

Hiya ladies!
I am desperate for people opinions and please be honest my do not be afraid to offend.
My beautiful daughter is 4 months old and I really feel like this is the perfect time to try for number two, call me crazy! I have always wanted a small age gap between my children and I have only ever wanted two.
My partner wanted to try for number two when our daughter is roughly one but I'm not sure I want to wait that long!
I would love to hear peoples opinions or experiences with having a small age gap between their children....
Thanks ladies
Xoxo

Hi my ds is 10 weeks today and i already want another one! Dh thinks im crazy and wants to wait a few years. I also have a seven yr old daughter and i feel i left it too long between these two, id definitely go for it if your both up for it!

I ttc at 5 months while bf. There is 14 months between ds +ds!!

On you go OP, there is 23 months between mine, I love having them close but if I had my time again I'd have them even closer.

Go for it - you will probably have a tough three years while they are both tiny but after that you will have two children who are very close.

I did fall pregnant when DS was 5 months but sadly MC at 6 weeks

My friend was already 3 months pg when her dc1 was 4 months old!

Thanks ladies!! It's so nice to hear that it's not just me that wants my babies close in ages! I think we'll go for it
Xoxo

Go for it. I conceived when DD was 4 months but sadly miscarried at 11 weeks.

We now have a 6 week old DS who’s magic but life is tricky with a toddler and a newborn. I think a lot about the pregnancy that didn’t work out and am convinced that the 13 month age gap would have been easier to handle than the 19 months we ended up having.

Would t change it for the world though, DD adores DS, and I’m a big advocate of the small age gap. Thinking about #3 already!

Good luck love xxx

I have 4 children all under 5yrs old, so I haven't left much gap, life is busy and my children are a handful, my friends think I'm crazy too but hey it's my life, do what's right for you, if u want another then go for it!

16 month gap here. The first year was tough, DD2 was very poorly for a while though which made things much worse than they would otherwise have been. I don't know how I would have survived that period without extended family support as DD1 was still so little. They are 20 months and just turned 3 now and it's much easier and most days really good fun. They are only just starting to play together but will happily play alongside each other with the same toys and I love it when they 'chat' and make each other laugh.
It's a lot of work but then children are at any age and as long as you're prepared for that then I'd say go for it.

I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant with a 7 month old! Dd was 8 weeks when I conceived, stupid withdrawal doesn't work! I'm much more tired then I usually would and caring for a small baby is not as easy as if I wasn't pregnant but excited that both should be under 1 when ds is born.

I was pregnant at 5 months. Gets it out of the way real fast but it’s tough for a short while. I don’t regret it. In the long long run (including teen years) it’s probably less work.

Well each to there own but I personally would just enjoy the one you have and see how you feel in a year or two.

Go for it if you want a small age gap
I feel pregnant at 7 months (there will be a 16 month age gap)

It's was tough in the first trimester. Being exhausted and feeling sick and having a demanding 7/8/9 month old to pick up, change, feed e.t.c. but DS is now a year old and much easier, plays a little on his own and not quite so needy.

I can't say how it is with a newborn+ 16 month old yet. I'll let you know

I wanted my dd to enjoy her babyhood as long as possible. There is a 2.5 year age gap which for me is perfect. Dd1 was is a toddler bed and out of nappies. Then 6 .months after dd2 was born she has a couple of mornings at nursery. Now dd1 is in reception I can have one on one time with dd2. It worked out well for us.

I wouldn't have done it earlier for the above reasons. I may have done it 6 months later only because dd1 would have been in nursery sooner, but we coped ok!!

It's nice to hear that it can work with two so close in age...time to get planning I think 😄

I have a 6 year old and due baby number 2 very soon. I personally wouldn't want an age that close but that's just me, I would enjoy the baby while still little. If it's what you both want go for it.

I have a nearly 3 yr age gap and it’s great. DC1 all potty trained, don’t have to carry about, good speech, at nursery a bit. Older one can entertain himself, help me and loves his brother so much.
These threads always say oh yes a close gap will mean the kids will be great friends but this really isn’t a guarantee.

I fell pregnant 8m after having my first and I love the close age gap. The first year was exhausting and I felt I was in survival mode with 2 babies who needed so much attention, but now they are 4 and 3 its amazing. They play so well together, are into the same things and are the best of friends.

Wow. I couldn't even face sex still at that stage! There's no right answer OP - nice to have them close together (although it may take a few months if you're breastfeeding and not ovulating yet); nice to have your baby to yourself for a bit too.

Congratulations on the baby!