Pregnancy help

[Ann9456]

Hi
I'm looking for some advice please. I am 24 and my boyfriend and I live with my parents. Today I have found out I am 10 weeks pregnant.. I was on the pill and had no idea till my doctors appointment today.
Ive told my boyfriend of three years straight away and he doesnt want to keep it. He says he isnt ready. I had a termination last year because we both were not ready. After the termination I felt very down and depressed for a long time. I want to keep this baby.
Any advice?

Thankyou in advance

You should do what you want to do, will your parents support you if you were to keep the baby? Would he come around to the idea? It has to a decision you have to come to and not be pressured by others. Hopefully you will have a good support network around you.

Whatever decision you make, it might be a good idea to try a different form of contraception next time (not in a hate to say I told you so kind of way) but if the pill isn’t working for you, it might be best to try something else.

Thankyou so much for replying.
I feel very stressed about the situation. My parents would let me stay living at their house etc.
I dont have anyone else to talk to about this yet.. i expected my boyfriend to be more supportive and i dont know if he will come round to the situation.

It's a shock to find out your pregnant so maybe he's in shock too. It really is upto you if you would like to keep it, give it a few data until it's sunk in for both of you

A few days*

You're right its a massive shock. I feel so alone because i have no one else to talk too. I feel like I need reassurance :(. So thankyou very much for replying

Do you feel like you can talk to your Mom or friend? Someone to listen to you in real life might be helpful

I really do wish I could. Im afraid of people judging me. Thanks anyway xx

Really feel for you, OP, but please do talk to your Mum or a friend. You will probably find they are more supportive than you think. And definitely don't have a termination if you don't want one. Your boyfriend will come around - or he won't - but either way it's your body and your baby. Take your time and look after yourself x

I hope he will come round. I really dont want to have a termination :( i'm scared of him leaving me but more scared of doing the wrong thing and feeling depressed again. Thank you for your reply x

Sit and talk to him again. Both of you need to tell each other your fears and talk them through. I find this is the best thing to do, even though some men find this harder than women! Try and explain exactly how developed your baby is now, 10 weeks isn't just cells anymore. I hope he comes round because it sounds like you really want to keep this baby and I wouldn't blame you!