Anyone else just flattened yesterday listening to news of link between stillbirth and sleep position 3rd trimester ?!

[Tompsy]

There am I pootling along as usual with news/woman's hour on the radio as usual, and suddenly oof ! i feel physically winded by this news. It's fantastic that the research goes on, and of course the findings must be shared, to help as many people as possible. I was just surprised, how even 14 years on, I can have such a physical reaction, and feel right back there, and oh there's all the guilt again, which never went away, just not something I think about much ! Maybe not just me, as even those of us who've experienced it tend to not talk much about stillbirth, cos it's so effing awful ! So if anyone else, like me, had a bit of an unexpected emotional double take yesterday, here's some , or if you prefer !

Yes I read it yesterday and wanted to post it here to raise awareness but didn't know whether it was triggering for some.
Thanks for raising the awareness and so sorry that you have experienced such a heartbreaking loss

Hi @Tompsy I didn’t hear the radio yesterday but I can imagine that it must have felt like being hit by a truck. We are almost 8 weeks on from our stillbirth and I question myself every single day as to how it happened. My pregnancy was high risk, but nobody told me what that meant (I feel very naive about this now) as my sister had been high risk for some of the same reasons as me and hers all made it (they were premature though). I feel incredibly let down by the system at the moment, I know that at the time nobody wanted to make me more anxious or stressed but now I just feel like they put a label on me and then I was left to tootle around thinking everything was fine as they were keeping an eye on things. No one mentioned sleeping positions to me, when I rang triage concerned about reduced movements I was fobbed off (even though I was high risk) and now my precious baby girl is dead and I don’t know what to do with myself. I am so very sorry for your loss, I think one of the scariest things for me is the understanding that for as long as I live I will miss her. I hope that they continue to research and improve, the numbers in the UK are still way too high.

Ah Miami, that's so recent, I'm so sorry, I hope you're getting plenty of love and hugs. How lousy that you feel let down by the system, that's really crappy but unfortunately not too surprising. I wish you all the very best of luck with maybe getting some answers or an explanation of how your care could have been managed differently. Miami, I'm really sure that you will have the strength to cope with the pain of knowing your daughter has died, and missing her. And it's trite but true, time does help, and the pain becomes less acute. But I'm sorry that you're even in the position of having to find that out. Good luck xx

I seen a bit on this on the tv thus morning and I've read that sleeping on your left side is meant to be best. More so in the last few months of pregnancy. I sleep on my side anyway.

Sorry to hear of your losses x