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Relaxing2 · 20/11/2017 15:46

Is there any pregnant women that keep thinking negative and horrible thoughts that sends them into a panic attack

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Losgann · 21/11/2017 15:17

Hi emma and relaxing. I am really struggling with these sorts of feelings too...am 21+6 today. Would be great to keep in touch as I don't feel like i have a lot of people I can turn to for support. Like you I worry I'm spoiling the experience for my partner with my constant anxiety.

EmmaHealy23 · 21/11/2017 15:21

Losgann please feel free to add me on fb xx

Losgann · 21/11/2017 15:24

Thanks so much Emma, I will do.

BabyOrSanta · 21/11/2017 15:27

Thank you to the PP who posted about feeling like a fraud!
I've felt like that the whole pregnancy!
I feel like one morning I'm going to wake up thin with no bump and then have to tell everyone I was never pregnant even though I've had scans and you can see the baby move in my tummy!

EmmaHealy23 · 21/11/2017 15:32

matresstestermax how did hypnotherapy help? I’ve had counselling but it didn’t help in the way it wanted, is hypnotherapy more geared around managing anxiety? That’s kind of what I’m after. Any such would be very greatly appreciated xx

Cagliostro · 21/11/2017 16:01

Yes me, I was unable to believe I was pregnant until my fourth scan at 20 weeks. I thought I'd feel better after this especially as she was wriggling more and more, but instead I just got scared every time I couldn't feel her. Poor kid was poked/woken up constantly in utero especially at night.

She's my third baby and although I was anxious with the other two (now 8 and 10) and had PND this has been far far worse. I actually think it's because this wasn't planned (not unwanted, just sort of not prevented rather than actively TTC) and I couldn't believe it, I felt guilty over my initial panicky reaction at BFP, and I just couldn't envisage another little person and this turned into not believing it was actually going to happen.

I had gestational diabetes and this sent my anxiety higher, I was scared to eat in case it hurt her, and although I managed to keep my sugar levels perfect I was convinced I was failing. At my last growth scan she looked small so they induced me and it was horrible. I didn't agree with the way it was all done, things like making me lie on my back for hours being monitored even though her heart rate had stayed perfect. But I was so terrified that I did everything they said because - and I have not said this to anyone, not out loud, not even my husband or my midwife - from the start I was absolutely convinced that she would be stillborn. I could not let myself believe we would be taking her home.

I was in total shock when they finally put her on my chest after the worst four days of my life, all I kept saying to DH over and over was, I can't believe it, I can't believe she's here, she's real.

I hate to say it but the anxiety hasn't gone. I have always had anxiety issues anyway but it has escalated, I have spent all day crying because we had to cancel plans for the second time on the tiny chance someone else there was contagious with norovirus, I feel like never leaving the house and it's like I can see germs everywhere. I was admitted to A&E on Friday and I had to take her with me (EBF), I am lucky we didn't have to stay in because I was an anxious wreck.

On the back of this thread I am about to phone the GP and see if I can move my appointment forward from the 30th. Always do the same if you are struggling. I have an excellent doctor who just totally got how I felt in pregnancy and offered to see me regularly.

I've added some photos of my little one (4 weeks tomorrow), not just to show her off honest :o Blush but to remind you that will be you soon, with your own perfect little person, and that despite all this it is absolutely, 100% worth it, I promise it is. Thanks

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EmmaHealy23 · 21/11/2017 16:18

Omg she is is Beautiful!!! I can’t believe all you have been through and you’ve managed it all, even when you felt like you couldn’t. The end of your pregnancy sounds very traumatic, I think you have been incredibly brave, I hope to be as brave myself.

Move your appointment forward if you think it might ease your anxiety, what have you got to lose!? It’s no difference to them when they see you xx

Relaxing2 · 21/11/2017 16:51

What's your names and I'll add you now xx

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Relaxing2 · 22/11/2017 09:55

Does anybody else want to be added on fb?

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Mattresstestermax · 22/11/2017 10:04

@EmmaHealy23
Yes, the hypnotherapy was not targeted to any particular thing, more for general anxiety and trying to persuade my mind that there was nothing to be afraid of. The practitioner was also a psychotherapist, and recommend that I go back after birth to deal with underlying issues (I never did - felt so much better after the birth).

It coincided with me finishing work early in health grounds, not sure which helped most!

I do still have anxiety issues, but I can manage then with good self care.

Relaxing2 · 22/11/2017 17:52

Everyone that's commented on here would you like to stay in touch and help each other threw I'm still in a complete mess

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AsMuchUseAsAMarzipanDildo · 23/11/2017 10:21

Really recommend following @pndandme and the hashtag #pndhour on Twitter. Lots of peer support from women going through similar. Intrusive thoughts are very common, just rarely discussed.

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