Can I️ look at dating scan - abortion?

[kellyrichards]

I’m currently (I️ think) 8wks+4 pregnant.. I’ve got a dating scan tomorrow for self referral for an abortion. I️ don’t think I’m 100% sure of what I️ want... I’m only 19 but have been with my partner for a year and have recently moved in together this September and very much in love! I️ don’t think I’m 100% sure about my decision because I’m not in permanent work and really worried about the financial side.

I’ve never had an abortion before so don’t know what to expect - I️ feel like a part of me wants to see the scan? I️ know from reading posts that I’m dating scans for abortions they don’t let you see the scan for emotional reasons... am I️ sick/wrong for wanting to see it? Would I️ be allowed if I️ asked or would I️ just be looked at funny?

I️ know it sounds bizarre - I’m just really curious to see and I️ think it will help with my decision? If I️ see the scan and it’s clear developed baby I️ won’t be able to go ahead! And if it’s not much to see and just a dot then maybe it will put my mind at ease? What’s your opinions on this? Please be completely honest!

Hi, at 8 weeks what you will be looking at with be a little embryo with developing limbs. Please see link below as it shows the different stages of somebody else's scans and may be kinder on you than looking at yours. You have to be 110% sure you don't want the baby and that the decision is right for you. Make sure you explore all avenues. I would suggest having a word with citizens advice who will help you look at your finances and work out any help you'd be entitled to financially like child tax credits/benefits/child care vouchers etc. I would've explore all options thoroughly before making your final decision. If theirs doubt this isn't a final decision.

www.mums.me.uk/ultrasound-scans/early-pregnancy-scan/

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At nearly 9 weeks it will look very much like a baby . Will have legs arms hands fingers toes . The head will be larger but it will very much resemble a baby . Good luck and I hope you come to a decision your at peace with .

Hello OP- mine looked like a little bean
There wasn't much movement.

It could be quite emotional but you absolutely should take all the time you need and make the right choice for you. Even if you don't decide to go ahead with an abortion you have the choice and that's what is important to remember. I have had friends have abortions during their teens, twenties and thirties and other who have kept their babies from their teens. Neither is the right or wrong decision but they all made the choice depending on where they were at that time of life and what worked for them at the time. Good luck ❤️

Hi op, sorry you're in a difficult position. Personally I think whether you see a blob or a little embryo, there will be attachment... I had a mmc last year, I saw a little blob, baby had died at 5 weeks (I was 7 weeks). I'm still having days when I grieve. It's such a difficult decision. Financially it's do-able, it's whether you're prepared to revolve your life around his/hers... Time, energy, career etc. Have you spoken top your partner, what does he think? Whatever you choose get support and tell people around you that can help you either way. Hope you make the right decision for you, big hugs x

I saw mine at 8 weeks (this was about 11 years ago now) and tbh it didn't really look like anything, just a little blob, but it still made me sad. Best of luck whatever you decide to do x