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Why do people chose to use the withdrawal method

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Blandmum · 17/04/2007 13:02

Following on from the previous thread, and I'm not having a pop at anyone!

If you have used this method, can I ask why?

Was it a positive choice to do so?

Did you use if because you thought it was a good method?

Did you use it because you didn't like the alteratives? Or for religious reasons?

Did you use it as 'emergency' contraception ie no condom?

Honestly interested. I'm surprised how many people have used it.

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LucyJones · 17/04/2007 13:04

laziness - reaching for the condoms would spoil the mood or dh didn't want to use one

serenity · 17/04/2007 13:10

Generally because we're crap at using condoms. We have them, just don't always remember to use them so withdrawal is a default method (probably used about 20% of the time) rather than our actual official method. It's pretty crap though, we concieved DS2 a year earlier than we'd planned by doing it. I am hoping that a couple of scares will finally persuade DH to have the snip (too fat to go back on the pill coil and injection don't agree with me)

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Blandmum · 17/04/2007 13:14

Have you considered a diaphragm? You can put that in place before any 'action' happens.

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Brangelina · 17/04/2007 13:16

DP's crap at condoms, don't want to go on the pill at my advanced age, the coil doesn't appeal and you can't get spermicidal cream here for the diaphragm. I do know my cycle though and tend to avoid my crucial days. Also it wouldn't be a tragedy (to me at least) if I did get pg.

FioFio · 17/04/2007 13:18

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bozza · 17/04/2007 13:20

I'm not sure if I am being thick here, but doesn't withdrawal "spoil the mood" as much as using a condom?

serenity · 17/04/2007 13:21

I've thought about it, but we don't generally plan to have sex, it just happens so I think it would end up not being used, plus I have problems with prolapses so I'm not sure it would be comfortable or practical(umming and ahhing about mooncup for the same reason)

Dh needs to have the snip After 20 years of pills, pregnancies, gyne operations and various indignities visited upon my nether regions I think it's his bloody turn!

littleducks · 17/04/2007 13:22

i didnt want to use anything hormonal, or want anything permanent (am babyspacing) do use condoms more now as i had a mc earlier in the year and want to give my body a rest, i did want a diaphragm but gp wouldnt fit one and i didnt want to go to sexual health clinic

but having a baby wouldnt upset me, only concern is still bf dd and dont fancy a double buggy!

LucyJones · 17/04/2007 13:22

oh I hate the stop everything momnt while someone fustles around with the foil packet... nt stopping doesn't spoil anything for dh and I tend just to want the whole thing over and done with

Spidermama · 17/04/2007 13:25

I use it sometimes.

I don't like any of the available contraception. So we use a mixture of knowing my cycle, withdrawal on those can't-be-sure days and condoms on and around egg popping time.

I wouldn't like to use the withdrawal method exclusively because it's nice to feel him climax inside. Obviously.

Is did that slip into TMI for this time of day?

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Blandmum · 17/04/2007 13:32

spidermama

Lucy, have you thought about a diaphragm, you can wang it up before you get in the mood. No need to stop or pause

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zephyrcat · 17/04/2007 13:38

Hi MB We use(d) it because I decided that I no longer wanted to take the pill. I had been on various pills since I was about 16 and was worrie dabout migraines and thrombosis as it is in my family history.

To be totally honest I didn't fancy having anything else as I didn't want anything inserted or injected etc. I was fed up with taking the resposibility as well!!

I bought condoms but dp wasn't really happy about using them.

Withdrawl ahs worked well enough for us and the only rreason I did get pregnant this time was a rare occassion when dp just didn't stop at all. We knew the risks though.

Nettee · 17/04/2007 14:40

not a positive choice - just not having got round to sorting anything more long term out

didn't think it was a good method

don't like hormonal alternatives - have a bad effect on the labido IME, Have tried the diaphragm but got fed up with the messyness of it (sorry if TMI), condoms are fine but as I said in the other thread you have to be very disciplined not to use both methods I think

Not for religious reasons

Yes as emergency contraception with no condom

Am now a convert to the copper coil - nice and perminent

to be honest the riskiest time in our relationship was right at the beginning when it would have been the biggest problem to get pregnant - it is becuase I wasn't planning to have sex then and it is a bit early to be having clinical discussions about what method to choose ( although I know that in that case it must be too early for sex as well but this is the real world)

mustrunmore · 17/04/2007 14:44

We've used it for 8 of the 10 years we've been together, and its always worked apart from when we were trying for the boys, when we obviously didnt use it!
I was on the pill in my very younger days, but not allowed back on due to a suspected blood clot. Have an allergy to condoms. Have just never fancied the coil.
Very irrresponsible I knowe, but now we're waititng for dh's vasectomy date to come though, so the end is in sight!

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