Scared I'll have missed miscarriage

[Sarah1087]

I can't stop panicking I am upsetting myself.

I'm eating healthy and doing everything right. Symptoms are through the roof like nauseous and breast tenderness I'm emotional, everything there. I mc in 2012 at 3 weeks. Had lap to remove endo in October and caught straight after.

I'm 5 weeks 5 days in for early scan on 27th im googling stupidly, but I just feel something will go wrong.
Reading that even with a Mmc you will still have symptoms and won't know until the scan.

I'm so sorry for the morbidity of this but I would love some reassurance, this will be our 1st baby

I had a miscarriage with my first and when I got pregnant again I felt exactly the same - terrified to the point of tears outside my 12 week scan. Yes sadly it could happen and it's understandable given you've already had a miscarriage that you are worried about it, but the chances are that everything will be fine. Most miscarriages are just one offs and not a sign of anything else. If you google or look on here there will be lots of stories of people who have had multiple miscarriages but try to remember that people who have normal easy pregnancies don't post for support in the same way.

My only advice is to try to distract yourself, step away from Google and try not to think about it too much. I found it helpful not to think about being pregnant as much as possible but I know that's easier said than done.

Maybe tried accepting it's out of your control and whatever will be will be. I had an early scan last week and all was good. I relaxed for about... 5 hours.... and started worrying again. But now I just think to myself that the odds are in my favour + there's nothing you can do anyway so que sera, sera.

I had a miscarriage but at the time I didn't know I was pregnant. A year later I was pregnant and I worried like crazy it would happen again it didn't. Stay away from google though!!

Try not to panic. Easier said than done I know.

Know how you feel in the same boat as you 😕 first baby, miscarriage in 2015 and mmc in June 2017. Now 7 weeks and also worrying, again I’m having lots of symptoms but just won’t kno until my first scan. I’ve booked a private one for 9.5 weeks but my friend said not much point as could still lose baby between them and 12 weeks. It’s horrible but try your best to remain positive x

I've just broken down crying To my partner, he's not as worried as me but then he's not on forums and reading tragic stories.

I've wanted this so much and was so happy when o found out and now I'm thinking worse it's so awful.

Thanks for your replies and I'm very sorry to hear your past sad story's 😢

I understand to an extent - I’ve finally got my dating scan on Monday (should be 12+4) and it is in the back of my mind as a possibility. But MMC is rarer than reading mumsnet would have you believe - I’ve seen a figure of 1% - so you need to put it in context.

More than that, if you’re so worried about this that you’re crying, when will you be reassured? A reassurance scan is great but doesn’t mean everything will be ok after that. Getting to the second trimester is great but doesn’t mean everything will be ok. Once baby is here will you be worrying about everything all the time?

It’s all very stressful, but for your own sake of mind, think you need to find a way to manage this anxiety. Are you anxious in general?

I agree with what you say, I am a little ocd with things so yes I will obsess over something which probably won't happen, I've been fine all day until I got in bed with nothing else to think about I've gone straight on google which has sent myself into panic.
I think as long as I have my symptoms and constantly feeling sick then it's a good sign.

I was exactly the same when I was newly pregnant and ended up having two early scans.
At this stage, unfortunately there’s not much you can do so the best advice that I can give is the advice I was given:

It will more than likely be fine but you can never know the future, so just enjoy being pregnant and take each day at a time.

Xx

Hi OP, I know a bit of how you feel as well. Please try and step away from Google, and dare I say it MN as well - I was blissfully unaware about what a mmc is until i read it on here, then because I was having zero symptoms, spent weeks and weeks utterly convinced that I'd had one. I was so surprised to see a moving baby at my dating scan!

DP and I talked about it and decided not to go for a private early scan, but that was because I could tell that it wouldn't reassure me for long and I'd just be straight back to worrying the next day. As pp have said, sadly there's not really anything they can do so early on. It's a very personal decision though and it did feel like ages until the 12 week scan!

Oh @Sarah1087 I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this. I can sympathise 100%. I had a miscarriage with my first at 6 weeks and I was devastated.
I was then exactly like you describe when I got pregnant again (and a bit like @HandbagFan says ... I kept thinking “when I get to 12 weeks I’ll be fine”, ... “when I get to 20 weeks I’ll be fine” etc) but I did limit myself from looking on Google. I literally only allowed myself to look up info on the progress of the baby each week when I clicked over into a new week gestation. I also never read horror stories in the paper etc.
Despite having a fabulous pregnancy, my anxiety was a bit of a cloud over it and looking back now, I wish I’d spoken to someone about how stressed I was.

I’ve now had a second baby and that pregnancy was completely different in that I did not worry at all!

Please stop reading bad stories and maybe see if there is anyone who you can speak to (with via your GP or MW). Good luck

I've had two consecutive MMCs. The first was discovered on Christmas eve 2 years ago at a private scan (10 weeks), the second time around I was too frightened to be scanned so I put my head in the sand and waited until my 12 weeks scan. Another MMC. Why am I telling you all this? For the same reason people are telling you that you need to try your best not to think about the What Ifs and to factor in as many distractions as possible. Stop googling and just use this time to rest and eat well.

MMCs happen, but are extremely rare. No scan is going to guarantee whether it is or isn't going to happen and the scary thing is it's out of your hands.

I'm now 6 weeks pregnant again and I'm feeling a bit numb to it all. I think my body and mind is in self preservation mode.

The chances are your pregnancy and baby will be absolutely fine. Focus on that, take each day at a time and indulge in you for the time being.

Sadly Mc and MMC happen so often now with sensitive pregnancy test and the ability to scan so early it's not helped with all the emotion linked to it ,

After 8 years I found out I was pregnant at 12 weeks amazing passed the damaged zone but my son was born at 33 weeks so not pregnant very long after they told me I wasn't at risk of premature birth,

I tried for a baby saw heart beat at 6 weeks 8 weeks then private scan 10 weeks baby heart had stopped at approx 8 wks maybe the day after the scan I had the worse sickness even on the way to the scan so I was in utter shock for a long time, as I told everyone thinking seeing the heartbeat meant very unlikely to miscarriag
Over a year and bit later ( husband had a vasectomy and then reversal ) another story I'm 7 weeks pregnant heart beat at 6 weeks but who knows what will be I'm so desperate it works out but so wish I didn't know
We are not in control of the outcome I'm affraid it will be hard to accept negitive outcomes but miscarriages happen in nature for a reason

Keep strong keep busy best of luck

I'm so so sorry to hear that, I feel like I'm being very insensitive now worrying about what will happen when for all I know everything maybe fine.

I apologise in any way if I have offended anyone who has suffered mmc reaccurently.

I really hope this is a sticky and everything will turn out ok.
I'm just being OCD with everything I hear and see, looking at mmc and reading all the tragic stories. I'm thinking there's a chance it could be me.

But I've given my head a wobble do I go round thinking worse or do I go along thinking positive and feeling mentally well about it all, being stressed won't be helping my baby.

Baby dust to you and I pray for you xxxx

Thank you tonic 💜💐

Hey please don't think like that, you weren't being insensitive at all.

I think there is far more information out there about things like miscarriages and MMC which is a great thing because it's being normalised, but it also means it gives you more to worry about at a time when your hormones are shot to pieces.

It's normal and ok to worry, but it serves no purpose. Try really hard to stop googling and look after yourself. :)