Those who have had MC or mmc

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Hi, I had a mmc December 16 and I'm thrilled to be pregnant again but even though I have symptoms that come and go and bad waves of nausea, tiredness etc I sometimes don't feel pregnant like it's not true, it's happening again (same time period as last year too)... That I'll go to a scan and have bad news again. I want an early scan to check all is OK but I also don't because my mmc was picked up first in a private scan. Just feel a bit lost... Like it's all not real. Anyone feel like this?

Yes I did.

After 3 miscarriages I was referred to a consultant and by the time the appointment came through I told him that I had done a test and was pregnant. He took me down to scan straightaway. He said I was 7 weeks etc and all looked fine. He also stated that although if something were to happen he night not be able to stop it happening but would have a good idea of what was happening if I had a scan every week until 16 weeks.

I had them on a Wednesday. I would spend Wednesday pm to Saturday being ahppy that all looked well on the last scan and Sunday to Wednesday am worrying that it wouldn't be fine at the next one. At 16 weeks (all fine) I was just told to come back for the 20 week scan (fine too). Now have a strapping 16 year old biy as a result of that pregnancy.

I will keep everything crossed for you that all goes just as well for you. ((hugs))

I felt like this all the way through my last pregnancy. After 3 MCs, I didn't feel that my 4th pregnancy was at all real but my DD is 8 months old now!

Having a scan won't affect what's happening - I found early scans to be really reassuring x

Of course! How you are feeling is totally normal. I had a mmc in Aug ‘16 and found out i was expecting Feb ‘17.

First tri was riddled with anxiety even though my hospital was kind enough to first scan me at 9w.

Basically I was in a heightened state for 40 weeks!

Someone said on the Pregnancy after miscarriage board that miscarriage robs you forever of the joy of being pregnant. It’s true but here’s another way to look at it: why should this pregnancy end like the last one did?

It’s easy to say but try not to catastrophise and take each day as it comes. Copious amounts of haribo helped me enormously too - good luck xx

So sorry that you have suffered a miscarriage, but congratulations on this pregnancy.

I had a MMC (picked up at scan) and then a successful pregnancy where I had an early private scan at 8 weeks but also had an early NHS scan due to some issues. Second time around, I had another MMC picked up at scan and then another successful pregnancy where I didn't have any additional scans. I was anxious and nervous throughout the 3 pregnancies after my first MMC to be honest and even after each scan I still felt that something was going to go wrong. I think it's human nature to feel that way. I didn't really relax or feel all was well until I had my baby in my arms!

I hope all goes well for you, try not to worry (though I know it's easier said than done)

After I got pregnant after my MMC I wasn't worried at all about miscarriage again. I was just weirdly so certain that it would be okay that time and it was and I went to full term with no issues.

I'm now pregnant again and definitely not as certain this time round. It's like how I should have felt last time.

I had some spotting last night (9 weeks) so that doesn't help. But it's almost like I was expecting it to happen again this time.

Thank you ladies, lots of good advice and experiences to read. I'm 7+2 now and I'm actually petrified to have an early scan. My head is saying have one done, find out if everything is OK and as it should be and my heart is burying all this in the sand...DH is really not supportive with this.. He's do what you want.... If you want a scan get a scan if not don't... But I'm actually petrified of going and it being bad news. Memories from last year are so vivid 😥

I've had multiple miscarriages, so every time I get pregnant I just can't relax until well into 2nd trimester. But I do find it reassuring to get an early scan. I had a scan this time around at 7 weeks, and it was a huge relief to see the heartbeat - if you see a heartbeat at 7 weeks then the risk of mc drops to something like 2%. I was incredibly nervous just beforehand though, as I'd somehow convinced myself that there'd be nothing, even though I've had horrendous morning sickness since 5 weeks - far worse than with any other pregnancy, in fact, and with all the ones I lost I had little or no sickness. It's only natural to be apprehensive. With DD3 I do't think I was able to finally let myself accept I was really going to have a baby until I felt her kick.

I had a mmc back in 2014 and was worried sick this time around being pregnant felt tired sick but didn't feel real like I actually was pregnant. Tried to get an early scan but they wouldn't do it finally had one at 13 weeks and baby was fine now 20 weeks and she's growing perfect try not to worry even though it's hard it will put your mind at ease if you have the early scan I wish I could of had one with all the stressing I was doing up until I had mine

Thank you @ArkadyRose @Lacey1987 I'm still not mentally there to book one yet... Like you said I've almost convinced myself that there'll be nothing there, I'm really nauseous all day, boobs still hurt but then I saw one post last year where someone was still being sick and had symptoms right up to the D&C day so I'm paranoid now that even symptoms aren't a sure sign. I keep holding off thinking, the longer I wait the longer I'm pregnant, stupid I know... Need to brave up