Worlds colliding-step mummy becoming a mummy

[April91]

Looking for some words of wisdom and reassurance because I know I won’t be the first one to go through this
Me and my partner recently found out we’re expecting. This will be my first child but his second-he has a 5 yo daughter from a prev relationship.
Me and her have an amazing relationship and I don’t want that to change so I need to know how to do this in the most nurturing and mindful way so that we continue to have a good relationship and she can bond with her little brother/sister.
I don’t want to fall into the trap of telling her nothing will change because how can it not, even in the short term she’ll notice things like me not being able to get down to play on the floor and do puzzles as I get further and further along which to her is a big deal
All advice welcome please

Congratulations!!!
No advice from your side but I have a daughter already ( 12 years) and pregnant with 2nd which is my partners first so he is somewhat in your position.
He treats my daughter like his own and we just include her in all talks and decisions and let help suggest names and will let her help choose nursery decor , clothes etc. We also plan on getting her a nice pandora bracelet or something similar from
Baby when it’s born ready to give her.
I think that’s all you can do really, include them, reasssure them that although things will change and be very different that you will still love them the same and they are part of all of it. You sound lovely though and a great step mum to be thinking of your step daughter in this way so think things Will go wonderful for you x congratulations again.

Thank you kelly14!

I don't have advice from your side either but am currently expecting my second baby. I would suggest having a big sister responsibility ready for your stepdaughter so she feels involved and try to ask your family to include her where they can.
I'd also try not to blame the baby for you not being able to do things with her in the later stages of your pregnancy. Try and find a way around it if you can, suggest doing puzzles on the table or curling up with a story just to not lose the closeness you have or she may feel replaced by your own baby. What's your relationship like with her Mum? If it's feasible, I'd also chat with her to see if you can both give your stepdaughter the same message - that you still love her the same and that families find more love for new members even though some day to day things will be different for her.

I agree with PP though and you sound very thoughtful towards your SD so I'm sure you'll be fine.