It's just the initial panic talking...isn't it?

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So, found out I am pregnant last night. We're both in shock. We couldn't decide whether to have a third or not so after a long time decided to let fate decide for a few months until Christmas but I am now in shock I think. We have a happy marriage, 2 sons (3 & 6) and life is good. I couldn't sleep last night feeling like I have "ruined" things because what if we aren't "as" happy as now? What is my boys hate us for it? What if they wouldn't have chosen this? Also, is everyone going to be shocked that I am having a third at 38, I'm panicking they'll think I am too old and I'll look ridiculous. Last week when I was completely unaware I was dreaming about it but the rose-tinted spectacles are off so I just need to elt the news settle don't I? .....

Also, is everyone going to be shocked that I am having a third at 38, I'm panicking they'll think I am too old and I'll look ridiculous.

I know loads of people who've had a first child at 38, so you definitely won't look ridiculous! I think you do need time to let things sink in. Congratulations!

Imam 41 and having my Forth with an age gap of 21 years so don’t worry 😜

I think i am, i hope it is just panic. So much more freaked then i thought...

I’m 30 but I have those thoughts about “ruining” things. I have two beautiful healthy boys and part of me worries I could be ruining everything if they don’t fit in as well. It’s totally irrational though, but it’s there

Congratulations! if it's any consolation I now wish we did go for a third, our boys are now 10 and 8 and would have loved to have a little one too we got a dog instead

I am having a totally planned for second child and I am totally worried about whether we'll be as happy, impact on our marriage, how my ds will react... It never occurred to me that I would feel like this while we were ttc but I think it's quite normal and will pass. No one likes change!!

Congratulations! Definitely the panic speaking.

We decided to try for a second when DS turned 1 - got pregnant straightaway and it’s twins 🙈 I thought I’d ruined everything and that there was no chance I could make it work. A month after finding out, I’m looking forward to it. Your boys will love the baby and within a few days/weeks will know no different.

I'm having intermittent feelings like this op, I think it's normal! I only have the one now but keeping worrying that my dc1 will be miserable with a sibling and that I will end up hating the new baby! Not likely, it's just nerves/the unknown.

I’ve just had an accidental third child. It’s amazing, my 20 month old hated me for about a week but he’s now over it. I never wanted 3 children, 2 was my limit but from the moment he was born I’ve felt so complete. A feeling which I never knew I was missing.

Some things are just meant to be.

So for those with the third...has it been complete mayhem?

Yes. Sweet, amazing, crazy mayhem! But everyone says going from 2-3 is loads easier than 1-2.

Honestly once that baby is in your arms you’ll not remember life without them. I’m sure you know that feeling from the other two.

It’s really not that bad, we just needed a higher car and now take a little longer to get out of the house.