Morning sickness and no one to talk to

[Poppy1989]

I’m 6 weeks pregnant.... and have terrible morning sickness, and very bad diarrhoea also in the morning. Added on... stress and anxiety! I feel like a big ball of mess ( who cry’s a lot!) being only 6 weeks and a few days pregant means only my partner knows. I feel so alone and worried when he goes to work. Crying on the bathroom floor because I feel so ill and having no one to talk is making me feel miserable. I have tried sipping water and dark sugared tea, and definitely can’t eat ginger biscuits as the smell makes me vomit.
Just need to feel like it’s all okay and I’m not alone.

Poor you :( i was like this and really struggled. I'm 17 weeks and still throwing up every day however everyone is different and when you're been sick for that long you just learn to cope.

Everyone will suggest ginger biscuits but yet to meet anyone who that actually worked for. Water also didn't help with me but i found flavoured water would or fizzy water left to go flat (i know that sounds silly.)

Don't push yourself to go to work if you don't feel able. I made this mistake and it made me more poorly in the long run. Is your partner supportive? They can try but really they don't know how it feels!

Try snacking on small things like haribo sweets or ready salted crisps. Don't try big meals for now and rest up.

Sorry i can't add anymore than that x

You're not alone, you can always come on here and there are various support threads for women who feel and suffer like you are.

I agree with pp, don't think about having to eat meals, just think of it as a bite at a time. I found plain biscuits were the best for me but everyone has a different thing.

If working is too difficult then tell work because you can then take time till this passes and sickness through pregnancy is treated differently to standard absence through sickness.

Thank you for your reply!

Partner is really supportive but his job and boss isn’t so time off for him is never aloud. Sometimes I think I will feel better after being sick, but it just keeps returning.

After a few hours of being sick all I can do is sleep, I feel terrible that I can’t get up And do the things I need to.
I’ve been tempted to tell someone close to me just so I have that support.

Will try the fizzy drinks and sweets thank you! Right now anything is worth a try!

Let’s hope this sickness calms down soon! X

You have my sympathy. It's so horrible and miserable. I am also struggling with it and find it not only physically tough, but emotionally too.

One of the things I have found helps me is sweets. Sucking on sweets like Giant Fruit Fizzers and Refreshers or even Love Hearts as well as Maoam Joystixx has been helping me, which I found quite surprising.

Sprite or 7up type fizzy drinks seems to help me. Some women recommend sucking on ice lollies if you cannot tolerate any liquids as they keep you hydrated, so that might be worth trying.

I do think, if you feel this unwell and your body wants to sleep/rest, then just go with that. Try not to feel too guilty or bad about not being able to do things. Perhaps you can tell one person who might be able to support you a bit. I told my mum and dad, because even if something happened before the 12 weeks, I would want them to know and receive their support.

@poppy1989 hi!
Totally understand where you are coming from I have suffered from aniexty for many years, I’ve had counselling and medication, read books tried apps everything! It’s deifnitelt a struggle and I understand feeling so alone, me and my partner are so the only people that know at the moment, last night he went to the pub with his friends - I felt so selfish but I completely broke down I was so upset I felt like I’d been abandoned (dramatic I know!)
As for the sickness I’ve been buying bottles of cold water and adding juice to it either Robinson’s apple and pear or the lemon and lime and that’s helped keep me hydrated! Also maybe get some sweets to suck on - I have pear drops that are individually wrapped I just chuck a load in my handbag before I go out or to work, yesterday driving to work I felt sure I was going to throw up all over the steering wheel, grabbed a pear drop and it just settled straight away. You might not be so lucky but it’s worth a try!
I’ve not had much of an appetite so I keep snacking on malted milk biscuits haha!

Always here if you want to talk! Just message me or I can send my email if you’d like!
Xxx

Hi I can understand it’s a bit difficult time for you...have you tried lemon popsicles, lemon water and crisp....don’t stay empty stomach it makes the morning sickness worse. Please try seaband as well...sometimes they help. Carrots, cucumbers, melon and lemon water worked for me....I can’t even sip water but these few things keep me sane. Take care of yourself x

This was me! And because it was so early i couldn't explain to people why i felt like such a ball of utter shite. I would spend the morning curled round the loo because if i moved too far i wouldn't make it back. My stomach literally hated me. Then the tiredness kicked in - the anti sickness meds made it a million times worse - and literally all I could do was collapse in a heap.

My go tos were plain haribo sweets, salt & vinegar crisps & oddly, normal capri sun cartons. Oh & pot noodle. Literally it was a few mouthfuls here, the odd sweet there. Sips of orange or water. I found the accupressure wrist bands helped this time too.

All I can say is take things slow & steady. Rest as & when you need to. I'm at 10 weeks now & only taking my anti-sickness at bedtime, which means that I'm not waking up & wanting to hurl my guts up. Starting to feel better, slowly. But I do keep having to remind myself that I feel this way for a bloody good reason!

I can’t thank you all enough for your reply’s! It’s made me feel so much better!!

All your advice has been sent In a little shopping list to my partner to grab on the way home
Sweets, ice lolly’s and different drinks are all things I will try!!

As soon as my eyes are open I have that awful sick feeling and end up running to the toilet. My energy levels are non existent and I’m so bored of sitting and also feeling sorry for myself.
I have terrible guilt that I’m having to cancel plans with friends and family because i can’t get out of my pyjamas all day.

If I continue to feel so ill, I do think talking to my parents may have to happen.

Thank you all again!! Let’s hope this sickness improves for us all

Have you spoken to your GP about anti-sickness meds? I'm on cyclizine which is amazing...but it might not help the whole feeling utterly knackered thing!

Worth having a chat with your GP, there are meds out there. Also you’ll want to watch for dehydration.

You poor thing. I remember that stage especially the crying on the bathroom floor bit - and with my first I didn't know I was pregnant and honestly thought I was dying!

I ended up living on coke and popcorn. I had to wait a while, but it did get better!

Fizzy water with lemon and haribo are my currrent go tos. Tomato cup a soups have been fairly successful too. I'm 10 weeks so hoping it's over soon (was 14 weeks with DS).

Anyone who spends more than half an hour in my company I think has guessed I'm pregnant :(

You poor thing. It’s not uncommon to feel so wretched at that stage but please do keep hydrated. If it persists then do see a doctor. There are medications that can help.

If you’re unable to keep any food or fluids down or are vomiting to the point of injury you need to be assessed and seen - I unfortunately suffered from hyperemesis for the whole nine months and it was not nice,

So far today I have kept down a packet of mini cheddars not very healthy and not what I usually eat, but I’m pleased it food and it’s stayed down. I feel so drained and tired but hoping that will pass or I will have good and bad days.

How soon did it all stop for yourselves?

You might be suffering with hyperemesis. I remember being 6 weeks and feeling like you. It did get worse! Ginger biscuits are bullshit. Get some anti sickness tablets from GP

Unfortunately (and I’m sorry, this is not what you want to hear) I was sick constantly for nine months. I’ve also been left with severe nausea after ovulation each month, well over two years post partum.

There’s a point where no amount of ginger is going to help. Do NOT let yourself get dehydrated

Hi

I suffered with pregnancy sickness all the way through pregnancy. I could only eat super noodles and flat lucozade! Veg made me more sick.

By 32 weeks I was signed off work and ended up taking medication. The best thing; regardless of medication is rest . If I over did things I would be worse. If one med doesn’t work there are others.

The charity Pregnancy Sickness Support were really helpful and if you need support but can’t talk in real life they have a mentoring system (I’m a mentor for them now myself ) . Go to www.pregnancysicknesssupport.co.uk

Sorry www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you think telling someone will help you the reach out, I’m sure your DH would understand. I had hyperemesis during my last pregnancy and telling my sister really helped me. I could ring her and moan away and she had the good sense not to suggest ginger etc. I unfortunately had a miscarriage, not related to the sickness so don’t worry but I remember how isolated and alone I felt. Don’t worry about what’s healthy or not when your that sick just eat whatever you fancy. Plus my sister was amazing after the miscarriage, she completely managed my family and friends for me when they wondered why I was down after having a ‘virus’.
Hope you feel better soon.

Hello Poppy, so sorry you are suffering like this. It sounds like possibly hyperemesis to me and it's really important that you get some good support with it, if you're able to start on medication early it may prevent it getting worse - make an appointment with your GP as there are various meds you can try. We have a hyperemesis support thread on here which you'd be very welcome to join, all the ladies on there will understand exactly what you're going through. If there is anyone you feel comfortable confiding in in real life as well that might really help as you do need support whilst you're so ill, it's a lot to go through on your own.