Hey everyone, this is my first post here but I am a long term reader.
Found myself in a situation today where I felt compelled to join just to get it off my chest, get some opinions and advise, ill even take some criticism as I just don't know what to do!
WARNING - This will be a LONG post...
I have two children already, both born by C Section as apparently I don't work (my cervix will not open even with contractions and medical help), after my second baby (back in 2014) the surgeon told me she would only recommend us having one more due to the strain of section and she made it clear next time it would definitely be another section.
Early 2017 we tried for baby and myself be extremely fertile (everybody has only took 1 try!) I was pregnant within the first month of trying and having my coil out. We were so happy.
Now, I always get sickness with pregnancies , all the way through, I'm used to it, all day every day. This time was different, I got sickness but it was uncontrollable, I was in hospital nearly every week hookd up to drips as i was dehydrated I couldn't even suck ice without throwing up, my body rejected all the anti sickness medications i was given and it got so bad that I couldn't walk without assistance, my eyes turned yellow and i barely spent much time coherent.
I lost so much time with my kids that I had, we were struggling finically as I am self employed so if I don't work I don't earn so reluctantly we decided to go through with a termination (it feels so good to say this even if it is to people on the internet as everyone we know believes we misscarried). Like I said criticism welcome as it is the biggest regret of my life, my due date has just passed 25th October and it killed me. Not to mention to trauma of the termination itself, its not under general , your awake and you feel everything, the pain is out of this world but feeling what they doing is mental torture.
It killed us, we still break now over it, our baby...
Anyway during the abortion they fit me with a new coil as we decided that we were going to stick with our 2 children, remain happy and not try for a third.
Fast forward to last month, everything had been going well, we even got married in July (not as the pregnant bride I expected!) but we went through a bad patch, we were still having sex but in a drunk state one night I slept with someone else.
I told my husband straight the way and we have moved past it and its actually made us stronger and sort out our marriage problems.
Long story short earlier today I found I was pregnant!! I am on the coil!
I was quite happy until my husband pointed out I had slept with someone else, BUT this other gentleman didn't cum inside of me , it was precum at the most. I guess what I am asking is would you think there is a chance its the other guys when I had the coil fitted AND he DIDNT ejaculate inside of me?
My husband did cum inside of me 4-5 times through the month and we have a on going joke that he has 'super sperm' as my first child with him I actually took a morning after pill and we had only just got together and had a condom split, but it didn't work! And then it took one time with me last baby from earlier this year. So I say his super sperm has now beat the coil lol!
Sorry to ramble on, my head it just a mess. We want another chance to have a baby as we regret the termination but we now have the worry of what I did in stupidity last month.
Advice, options , anything... thank you!!