Considering I'm such a big scaredy cat, can I ring my hospital and tell them I wont be seeing the consultant after my scan?

[Nbg]

They cant really say no, surely?
I got the letter for my scan on Friday and its tomorrow at 9:15 but says after I will see the consultant. I know its just routine but going for the scan will be hard enough.

If I ring the hospital at 9am and say I shan't be seeing the consultant so could they cancel that appt, they should be ok about it shouldnt they?
Other than that I'll just go after my scan but I dont want to do that.

Why do you not want to see the consultant?

i think it is important u see the consulant, and as hard as tom will be, i think it should be done, i understand how hard it can be and just getting through the scan will be hard enough, but it is important , and should not really be missed, i found my consultant a god send, on advocating on my behalf as she understood my worries and concerns, i am not sure of the full story ,,, so i cannot comment fully, it all is good news then the consultant will be brief if something is slightly wrong etc they can give u the best advice, xxx good luck xxx

Nbg I work in the NHS and would advise against missing your consultant appointment, however I don't know the circumstances and so I would suggest you ring the consultant's secretary this morning and explain how you feel - s/he could then have a word with the consultant on your behalf and they could agree to postpone the appointment until you're feeling more ready for it. May I ask what the scan is for?

Thanks for the replies.
I'll fill you in a bit.
I found out I was pg with my 3rd about 3 weeks ago and its been a massive shock because I only had my ds 7 months ago and he was supposed to be our last child.
I have a masssive fear of hospitals and Dr's surgerys which came about when I was pregnant with ds. My MW has agreed to do my antenatal appts at home but obviously I cant avoid the scans.
This scan is to see how far I am as there is confusion about dates.

I know that all the consultant will do is ask how I am, do bloods (which I have refused to have already) and thats it. So I really dont see the need to go as it will only cause me more panic and stress.

Can you take someone with you for moral support?

dont know reasons behind this, is it 12 week scan? I went for mlc and so didnt see any consultants, my midwife checked scan reports at the following clinic, so normally not essential but sounds like other circs here

sorry x post, i tremember the thread now, yes i would say cancel the appointme

If you don't feel up to it, explain how you feel I am sure it won't be a problem. In our area you never see a doctor unless there is a complication.

Dh is coming and dd and ds will be with us too.

i would wait and see what comes of the scan and then tell staff, that u do not need to see the consultant, etc, as u might want to see the consultant, after the scan if there is any confusion, if u cancel before and then there is a real reason to see the consultant then u will regret cancelling and having to wait,?

I did think about there being a problem at the scan but also thought that they would send someone in if something came up.

yeah i suppose they would if something was wrong, which i am sure everything will be just fine , maybe phone and explain then that this makes u anxious etc, and that you do not feel the need for a consultants appointment etc, as long as everything is ok, as the scan alone is causing u enough worry etc,
im sure all will be ok and you will feel much better after your scan,
how far along are u x

We dont know atm.
I had a very light bleed in Febuary and the MW thinks it could have been an implantation bleed and if thats right then I will be about 13/14 weeks. If not probably 8/9 weeks.

well good luck for for ur scan xxx

thank you

I would definitely ring the consultant's secretary this morning and explain your situation. You're right; it will only be a perfunctory thing, and if the radiographer has any concerns they can bring someone in. If I were you I would make it plain what the situation to the radiographer when you get in the scanning room so they can make any decisions accordingly.

Try not to get too stressed about this side of things - it can easily be sorted out.

can you ask for midwife led care instead? then you would only need to see the consultant if there was a problem, not as routine.

Yeah I think I have gone over that slightly with the MW.
I have a Duplex kidney. It doesnt cause me any problems at all but they made me see a consultant last time for it which peed me off.

Well I've called them.
They transfered my call to a Midwife on the day unit and she was quite understanding. She was a bit concerned about my reasons for not coming as she thought it was an extreme reaction but said no ones forcing me to go so she couldnt make me.

I say face it head on. You'll feel loads better afterwards even though it might be stressful at the time. Easier said than done I know, but the consultant is only a person and unless you're really, really unlucky, they'll be lovely and understanding and you probably won't have to see them again.

I hate Drs and hospitals and needles and bloods and tests and having bp checked/weighed etc but I do it and every time it gets a little easier and I feel a bit prouder of myself.

Of course you don't have to do anything you don't want to, and all tests in pregnancy are based on your consent I believe. Let us know what you do and how you get on.
xxx