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If you are on Facebook, have you done any sort of pregnancy announcement? Most of my friends have but I'd not really thought of it. We've kept it a secret due to a real scare at twelve week scan but touch wood all is looking good now and doctors have said to now try to relax and enjoy rest of pregnancy.

DH suggested I put something on Facebook now that work know, so that everyone else knows and it doesn't feel so secret, as I'm still not used to talking about it!

Has anyone else?

I find them pretty nauseating but DH wanted one so much. We we went for a horrific tongue in cheek one. See below. Worked out as most people just found it funny as opposed to simply vomit inducing(I hope!!!). I mean, we both look horrendous 😂😂😂

Oops. Here it is.

We didn’t do one. I find posting scan pictures a bit odd, but that is just me. Lots of people have commented on the fact we’ve not announced - I’m now 37wks and pregnancy is very visible in photos!

Thanks for the tip @Foggymist.

Logging into Facebook now to get changing my settings :)

I’m pregnant but not planning on a Facebook announcement. I will make the effort to contact people I care about individually to tell them.

I have a couple of friends for whom pregnancy is a sensitive issue - one undergoing ivf and another childless by circumstance. So I’d like to tell them in a more thoughtful way than via Facebook.

I didn’t put an engagement announcement either, just phoned those I am close too. I did put up a few wedding photos after the wedding.

I didn't announce my pregnancies on fb, didn't announce the birth of my dc, don't post any photos of them either. I'll leave it up to them to decide if they want to put pictures of themselves on when they're older. People have referred to my children as 'secret children' because if this which is just fucking bizarre!

It's interesting you said that Bunny. A friend of mine struggled with infertility for many years and found fb pregnancy announcements/scan pictures/new born pictures particularly difficult, however when she fell pregnant herself she announced it on fb and put all of her scan pictures on. I think she was just over joyed but I did find it odd.

Didn’t with any of mine. Only when it was over.

I remember before I had children my cousin and his wife never shared any detail about their pregnancies on Facebook only a birth announcement ... I asked him why and he said it’s something they wanted to enjoy without the intrusion from social media. I never got it until I was pregnant... it was great as we had both deleted Facebook anyway, but we got to enjoy it without the “when are you due” etc.

We did send an email with scan pics etc to Family and friends. Which was good enough for us.

We put the odd photo of ds and us on fb, only ones that will never be any source of embarrassment etc, just maybe a pic of him with one or both of us at Christmas or on holiday etc. Dh's cousin says he always we have a child because he's not on our fb so he feels like he isn't real

Always forgets!

We did, after our 12 week scan. Most everybody knew anyway, it’s been a rough pregnancy. My husband was desperate to announce it, he’s just so excited. I do use fb a lot. We have family and friends all over the world. It’s just easier. I think it’s really down to you. Don’t feel pressurised to do something you don’t want to.

I'm 38 weeks now and have posted absolutely nothing relating to pregnancy on Facebook. My scan photos are mine and they're personal, I don't really want random folk I went to school with seeing them (I know I should delete them but I enjoy a bit of stalking as much as the next person...). I'm also very aware that lots of people struggle with seeing scan pics when they are ttc and I'd hate to think I upset someone, probably a bit silly of me but hey ho.

I'm not super precious about it though and if I'm tagged in a photo I wouldn't demand it be removed, I'm just very private on SM in general and find big announcements of any kind super cringey.

Like InDub we didn't post about either pregnancy or birth and I don't put up direct posts/pictures about either DC. Social media profiles are likely to be key for their generation so they can decide if they want to add any of their baby stuff when they're older.
Anyone who needed to know at the time was told in person.

First time I posted a picture of a bun in an oven. This time I posted a picture of toddler DD looking at a book called I'm a new big sister and looking pissed off.

In my first pregnancy I was so excited (and shocked) I told quite a few friends very early on but didn’t get to the FB announcement stage as I miscarried at 11 weeks. I did then put a post about miscarriage and was overwhelmed by the response I received and how many other women I knew had been through the same yet had never spoken about it (some close friends and even family!) I know not everyone wants to talk about it but I think miscarriage is such an important part of a woman’s reproductive life and you can find so much support and comfort talking about it...I’m glad I ‘announced’ my loss as much as I cringed afterwards about it because it was such a personal thing to share.

Any who, I had another MC after that, and then with my third pregnancy it stuck, but I was adamant I did not want it on FB (a lot of the time to spare feelings as it can be raw for others to see). We got married when I was 29 weeks though, and it was a big wedding, so I did announce it just before my hen do when I was 24 weeks because I knew I would be outed in pictures by my massive bump! I am glad I did, people were really sweet about it and very kind. I think it’s really personal, just do what is right for you.

I didn’t put anything on fb. I had previously suffered an ectopic & even though it was confirmed early on that the baby was in the right place this time, I never wanted to jinx it. I was outed by a photo that was posted when I was heavily pregnant. DS arrival was announced once he was here safe & sound. Even then I didn’t post any details, DP & DM announced it for me.

I admire those who do though, to be so confident & assured that everything was going to be ok must be a good feeling to have. I on the other hand felt like I was in the last chance saloon age wise & losing a tube made conceiving a real battle.

I quite like people's announcements, it's always nice to see friends happy news.

I never made an "official" one myself, but I did put a photo where it was more than obvious. I only have friends and family on facebook, my sisters knew from the start, but otherwise I didn't see the point of keeping it a secret either. Not sure why I would hide it from my friends.

I did make an announcement when the babies were born. We did call parents and siblings, but it was so much easier and quicker to tell everybody else by putting a photo on facebook. If it bothers people, they can ignore the facebook message, whilst you put them on the spot if you do send an email.

I guess it depends a lot if you have any random folk on facebook or if you keep it private. Any of my facebook friend could come and stay at my house tonight if they wanted, I don't have random people on my private one.

I haven't put one up (now 19 weeks) but then I hardly use FB any more. However as soon as I told her another friend started tagging me in pregnancy posts all over the place so my plan of telling close friends face-to-face rather went out of the window... I'm thinking of putting up a brief post after my second scan next week, but undecided yet.

I didn't announce my pregnancy with DD, we struggled with infertility and I found FB announcements hard so would have felt like a hypocrite doing one myself. We did post once she had arrived safe and sound

Nothing on Facebook until the baby is here.

People don’t place a notice in the Times to announce a pregnancy, only a birth. I think the principle applies for social media, too.

We were ttc for 12+ yrs. Damn right I posted one.

You learn after that long that there are much harder things in life than seeing another couple happy with what you want so badly.

I'm on there, but we won't be making any announcements on Facebook. My DH is a bit anti FB anyway and the people who we want to tell will be told, just not via social media. We're still quite early on and wouldn't want to be broadcasting it and then somthing was to go wrong.

Somebody I know put their whole pregnancy on FB and even a video to reveal the sex. I found it all a bit too much but each to their own.

I definitely won't. I don't want to 'jinx' the baby and also know how heartbreaking these can be when others are TTC / have lost a child etc.

I'll probably make a birth announcement (fingers crossed) because otherwise it might be a bit weird if there's a random baby in my pics but I won't do OTT 'mummy' posts.

I might insta though, that's weirdly less personal (and I have fewer followers!!)

I didn’t and wouldn’t personally. It just feels weird showing people I’ve not seen for many years the inside of my womb! And writing something would seem all ‘look at me’ to me. As you can probably tell I’m quite a private person so I do appreciate other people like sharing stuff. Also when I was planning a baby for years because of dh then ttc the scan photos drove me a bit mad with jealousy.