Successful pregnancy after 2 MCs?

[spicedpeach]

Hi there just found out I'm expecting, sadly however I've had 2 miscarriages in the past and don't have any DC currently. I'm excited and terrified in equal measure - please reassure me!

Thank you and congratulations to you all

I was like you OP, I had a missed miscarriage (which led to a d and c) and an early miscarriage both within 12 months. Was then told due to endometriosis and polysistic ovaries I was unlikely to have a successful pregnancy.

However, my 10month old DD is having her afternoon nap next door as we speak...

Fingers crossed for you and I hope everything goes well! If it puts your mind at ease, book an early scan privately (cost us about £98, we couldn't really afford it, but, the peace of mind it gave me was priceless).

Also, I'm truly sorry about your past MCs, it's a truly shit thing to go through.

Good luck!

@RubaDubMum89 you've put me so much at ease already! Thanks for sharing your story. I also had a D&C and they're bloody awful aren't they. Did you do anything in your 3rd pregnancy to reduce the risk of MC? Did the doctors put you on anything different?

Thank you!

1st trimester miscarriages are so common that it is normal to have a couple. Doesn't make having one any less hideous, of course.

I had 2 MCs in 12m trying to conceive dc3. TBH the only thing that reassured me each time, was getting further along than the previous time. I chose not to go for early scans - knowing that there was a baby, and seeing it, wouldn't make it more likely to 'stick', nor ease the pain of losing it.

No3 'stuck'

Sending you sticky wishes.

Goody Oh wonderful, I'm so happy it worked out a third time! Did you do anything differently? I have read that having 2 isn't an indicator for having a third MC but it doesn't make it any easier. However these stories are really giving me hope - thank you.

Peach I knew really early on 3rd time that I was pregnant, I think I was about 4 weeks when I cottoned on (each time I've been pregnant I've developed a sense of smell like a blood hound), so I started taking the pregnancy vitamins right away, quit smoking (obviously - although I started again once DD was born, silly me) and cut out caffeine completely for the first trimester, although I caved in the second trimester and started having a couple of instant coffees a day again.

The Dr's never did anything... I was on the list to have an operation for endometriosis (I forget exactly what they were going to do) and I was under a specialist for the ovaries. Literally though, I must have fallen pregnant within days of getting both diagnosis(es?), they said we'd find it next to impossible to conceive so we just stopped using any form of contraception, thinking we were about to start years of repeated miscarriages and fertility treatments. I was lucky.

All I can say is relax, take it easy and try not to worry too much (although this is easier said than done). At the end of the day, you can follow all the do's and donts to the letter, but alot of early MCs are due to chromosomal abnormalities, so there's not much you can do really to change the course of things.
I've my fingers crossed for you, hopefully this will be your success story too!

I didn't do any thing differently in each of my pregnancies. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Who knows why these things happen.

The midwife who helped me at the EPU said what Rubadub said: most early miscarriages are the result of chromosomal abnormalities. She was certain that nothing I had done or not done would have caused the miscarriages. Just consider - if how or what you eat/drink/dance/etc could cause miscarriage, there'd be far less need for abortion. Women who didn't want to be pregnant would just sort it out for themselves.

We think we are in control of our bodies, but we're not, really. Sometimes we just have to go with the flow, accept the rough with the smooth.