Hospital

[katherineAnn]

Right ladies please tell me if I'm wrong' I've been admitted to hospital and instead of my partner coming up to be with me he stayed at work because it "wasn't an emergency" didn't hear from him for 2-3 hours so when I said to him I was abit annoyed that he wasn't here with me he got the hump with me.... when I tried to explain to him that it's all well and good having my mum and other people here it wasn't him and I needed him! Then he decided to text me saying he's not coming because he's not feeling great due to the argument we had! After me screaming and crying down the phone because it hurt me that much he decided to make his way up here to only be here 45 minutes and go home because he was hungry for his Chinese even though I haven't eaten in 3 days or drunk because my sickness has even so bad! So he moaning going home because he hungry when I'm sat in a hospital bed on starvation high😭😭😭😭 I literally don't no how to explain to him what he's doing is wrong! Please help me😞😞

Am sorry you are feeling shit but I think you are over reacting. Best thing you can do now is rest. And if you are on a ward he won't be able to sit all day as they have strict visiting times.
He does sound rather useless though for pissing off home for his takeaway. I hope you start to feel better soon. Hg is the pits.

Agree you are probably overreacting because you feel unwell. It's not an emergency so you don't need him to miss work. You had other people there.

I think you might need to calmly explain to him that when you NEED him like you needed him then he will have to make himself available. Yelling and screaming is going to produce the opposite effect to what you want from him and it will not benefit you, him or the baby.

However you need to understand he may not be able to leave work if it is not an emergency and you will need to make other arrangements if you feel like you need company.

I hope you start to feel better and will be out of hospitak soon 🙂

Like others have said it's maybe just because you're scared and emotional that you've over reacted a bit. I get really princessy at times when I'm worried so I'd be the same! My boyfriend is self employed so he wouldn't leave work in a non emergency either, not worse losing the cash for! The Chinese was a bit far though, get him to treat you to a wee meal together when you feel better :)

What have you been admitted for? If it could cause complications in the pregnancy I would expect my partner to show up eventually. I also don't think you're overreacting to be pissed that he moaned about being hungry in front of you knowing you haven't eaten. Maybe I hold my husband to higher standards than others though!

I don't think you're over reacting at all. Whatever the health problem, the fact is you're finding it really hard and are really upset. You need your husband and should be able to rely on him. If he really couldn't leave work, I know my DH would have came to me straight after work and stayed as long as he could.

I'm shocked the amount of people who don't have this

I agree with two previous posters... I'd want my partner to be there for as long as possible if unable to leave my work early... you're not overreacting and he could grab something from a nearby Tesco and get bk to you if he saw you upset

I totally understand it's a really difficult time and he should be going through it with you.

I personally think you have every right to be upset. You’re unwell and in hospital and he should be with you, maybe straight after work if he couldn’t leave during. Explain to him that you’re going through a tough time and it may not seem urgent to him but it is to you and you need his support.

If it’s not an emergency and you are receiving treatment and able to get your needs across to staff, there is no reason for him to sit next to you and ....what stare at the paint?
Hospitals are not places to hang out and visit.

Did you actually ask him to take the day off to be with you, or was the first he knew of it when you started ranting at him? If I were in his position and a) it wasn't an emergency and b) I knew that you already had other people with you, I wouldn't have taken a day off work. When he did come after work, did you chat or as your post suggests, did you rant at him? Maybe he made excuses to leave early because you were giving him a hard time?