Councelling during pregnancy

[Hannabee123]

Well I've admitted defeat and fessed up to my doctor that I am really not coping well with my emotions during pregnancy. She was great and a referral has been sent off for some more support. I can't bury my head in the sand and hope for things to get better because they arent. It's putting alot of stress on myself and my partner.

I feel like I'm letting my baby down in some bizarre way and I can't really put my finger on why. I know I'm not letting her down I'm just trying to become strong for when she arrives in December.
My partners been great but the lack of support and having none of my own family nearby is also taking a toll.

I feel hopeful and more positive hopefully being put on the right track and having some additional support so I don't get overwhelmed and act out. It's been really rough but I need this.

Has anyone had any mental health help during pregnancy and what were your experiences? Did you find it helped?

I need someone to peel me off the ceiling :(

Hi Hanna I just wanted to say that you're doing the absolute number 1 most important thing getting the help you need and being a brilliant mam, making sure you're feeling strong enough to cope. You are in no way letting the baby down, this is the best thing you could do for your baby.

I've had support during pregnancy several times, and I don't know who you've been referred to, but if your mental health problems are specific to your pregnancy, I would recommend trying to ask if you can be referred to a specialist obs&gynae counselling team. I just had regular CBT style support the first time, but - through no fault of her own - the woman just didn't understand what I needed. When I got referred to someone who knew more about it, it was a much bigger help. She understood things I didn't even know how to say.

It can be really hard getting the support you need. Well done for reaching out xx

It's an NHS mental health service I'm going to get a call to discuss things and see what options / what kind of support I need. Il keep that in mind though and certainly ask about it. I just want to be the best I can be. It's tough and I think alot of women are told that they are just hormonal and it gets brushed under the carpet. I think it's sad and things can get alot worse like they have with me and it gets to a point where you realise your not just hormonal and need some more support.
My midwives have just kept saying it's normal and not paying it too much attention

I am 26 weeks and have just started intensive CBT as my anxiety has significantly increased during pregnancy. I have hated pregnancy so far, even though we tried for years! I am shocked at how my mood and anxiety had worsened when it's supposed to be a happy time.