2 jobs and pregnant anyone?

[Mum2oneds]

So I only work 16 hours a week. In a very full on stressful job. Which some may remember I hate lol.. I wanted to get a little eve job like 5-7 cleaning or something just for a little extra spends for Xmas etc.
I'm. Not sure whether it would be too much.. I've seen one online that's Oct to Jan so that's perfect before baby..
Wondering if I'm. Mad to do this.?

Most people work 40 hours a week during pregnancy, plenty up until 38/39 weeks so unless you have any medical issues stopping you then I'm not sure why you'd think it was too much. You're pregnant, not ill!

I think you'd be fine!

I work 45 hours a week in a stressful job, have my own business on the side (and have a kidney disorder!) and am working up until 36 weeks.

God I really, really hate that "you're not ill, you're pregnant!" line. Especially when it comes from one woman to another. We should be supporting each other, not belittling each other. It really gets my back up. Probably because I've had a really awful pregnancy and struggled through almost every day of it, and I've felt very ill. I stopped working at 36 weeks and was extremely glad to.

OP, it really depends on how you are feeling personally. Yes, many women work up to 38 weeks or beyond, or even their labour. Others are totally exhausted, maybe be suffering for insomnia, various aches and pains etc. All normal pregnancy stuff and not necessarily a "medical condition" but can still make you feel pretty rotten.

When are you due? I wouldn't avoid it specifically because you are pregnant, there's every chance you'll be fine. If you're coping well and feel up to it, by all means go for it. Just bear in mind that how you feel physically might change during the duration of that job - you might be fine in October but knackered 3/4 months later when hitting January depending how far along you are.

If you're well and you don't have other childcare to be paying for, yes, I would. Working in pregnancy is easy, it's after that's hard, I think. I work 40 hours a week including some extra weekends occasionally, plus we run a family business (beyond my full-time career), plus some weeks I have about 18 extra hours of commuting. The commuting bit is hard because it's very long days, but the working is not. I would do it while you have the chance and save some money. You'll want all the time you can at home with baby once he/she arrives and will be glad you did.

It really depends on you and how you feel to be honest. I couldn't do it right now because I feel like crap. I work from home and I can't even muster the energy to do basics. Couldn't have done it with my first because I could barely move without vomiting, but with my second I had two jobs and I felt fine even when I was waddling around like a whale - until SPD set in that is, then that was the end of that!

Lemondrop, I did state that unless the op had any medical issues work shouldn't be a problem.

Its shit you've had a rough time but people like you insisting pregnant ladies are treating like special snowflakes whilst they are doing what their bodies are made for doesn't help anyone either! There's so many things people have told me I shouldn't/can't do whilst pregnant that are utterly ridiculous. I'm pretty sure we're all capable of asking for help if we need it.

Clare, you're entitled to your opinion but you could have got your message across with using the "you're not sick, you're pregnant" phrase. I just find it such a condescending and overly simplistic thing for people to say.

And as for asking for help, I see plenty of women on here on a daily basis who feel the pressure to soldier on regardless, so I don't think everyone is capable of asking for help when they need it. And I don't just mean medical conditions, just being in your third trimester and being huge, achy and exhausted can really affect some women. I just think those women should be putting themselves first and relax if they need to, without feeling guilty about it.

I appreciate there can be frustration the other way, if you're coping well with pregnancy and people are judging you for being to active or treating you like you're going to break (but those women are probably in better state to tell people to sod off with their opinions, than someone who feels crap but too guilty to say it). That's why I think each individual woman needs to judge their own fitness and capability, rather than generalised sweeping statements about what pregnant women can and can't do.

I'm not sure where I suggested "pregnant ladies" are special snowflakes (think that's a ridiculous label too). Again you seem determined to lump everyone together. What I said is that SOME women feel bad and each women should make decisions on their personal circumstances.

I totally get what you said. I certainly don't treat it as an illness. It was more the long hours. As on my normal work days I'd leave at 7.30 am sch run etc. Do my shift pick up from football clubs. Quick feed DS. Drop him to my dad's. Go to second job home at 9.30 pm.. My fault didn't explain myself.
If it wasn't for my job being so hands on busy and physical I wouldn't of gave it a second thought. Dps not too happy about the idea, but won't say why lol.

I couldn't agree more @LemonDrop99 !

you're entitled to your opinion but you could have got your message across with using the "you're not sick, you're pregnant" phrase. I just find it such a condescending and overly simplistic thing for people to say.

I also hate that line. Every pregnancy is different so you just need to go with what feels right and works for you.

I'm with you @Lemondrop99 pregnancy can make people very ill, aside from the exhaustion, stress etc.

The message should be 'listen to your body'. If you can manage it, great. If not, don't.

Take the job, you can always leave if it's too much.