Struggling already, I'm going to be a bad mum!

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I'm currently 26 + 2 and am really starting to struggle.

I haven't slept properly for two weeks being awake for hours each night, the last two nights I've had to sleep half sat up because it's too uncomfortable to lay down in any position. I have a constant pain just near my belly button. I'm struggling to focus at work, which is causing more stress as the work is piling up.

All of this is really grinding me down and I've really had enough but feeling like this worries me more because if I can't cope already, how am I going to cope when I'm even bigger, how will I cope when little lady is here and keeping me awake all night every night.

I want to be the best mum for my daughter but I feel like I'm going to let her down and that I am already letting her down because being so worked up can't be good for her.

There are so many other pregnant women around me and no one else seems to be struggling like I am. What's wrong with me? Why can't I just get on with it like everyone else?

Pregnancy is different for everyone, and honestly for all you know, the women that you see are struggling too. More importantly, don’t worry about how you’ll do it when your DD arrives, because you just will. You’ll be shocked by how resilient you are when it comes to taking care of your newborn. You’ll get through it and it will be over before you know it. They grow and change so quickly and the sleepless nights don’t last long at all.

For a lot of women, Pregnancy is hard, very hard. I’m on my second, and it is destroying my body. It was horrendous the first time too. But it doesn’t mean you will be a bad mum. I’ll tell you, I found my first pregnancy very difficult but I found having a newborn baby piss easy. Some nights baby will keep you up, but it’s not all night, every night. It might be all night some nights. But you’ll get through it. Plus, your body won’t ache like it does now, you may be woken every few hours, but you will be able to sleep comfortably as you won’t have a person inside of you. It is probably going to get worse, especially the last month or so. But having the actual baby is nothing like growing it. You’ll be ok. Have faith in yourself.