Surprise pregnancy-emotions all over the place

[Mummy012]

I'm feeling guilty for posting this but literally feel I have to get it out. My dh and I have a nearly six year old and quite some time ago decided against a second child. It's taken me a while to get my head around as I never thought I'd have just one. Anyway, we were focussing on the positive like we were in a position to send her to private school, she's a bright kid and we felt it would be great for her. We had all these other plans and I was in a good place. However I now find myself pregnant! My head is a mess. My dh response was that it's a good thing but I'm all over the place. I spent two hours in tears with my mum as I was so shocked and had psychologically got myself to a place where I was happy with one. I feel very alone and very guilty for not jumping up and down with joy. My dh is ignoring the fact that I'm not in a good place which is making me feel really isolated. I'm not saying I don't want this baby I just really need some support in getting myself sorted in the head!!! Has anyone been in a similar position or can just offer some supportive words?!

I think with any surprise pregnancy, even planned sometimes, it can be normal to have this mix of emotions. Lots of women have definitely felt simolar to you. I know I did, and I 100% know many of my friends did too. You're not alone.

Will your DH listen to you more if you literally sit him down and spell it out? Him listening and understanding you is most important I think. Somebody you know, who's going through this with you, to understand how you're feeling and support you through it and who you're able to discuss any concerns with and think of solutions together.

How was your mum when you were crying when talking to her? Is she understanding and supportive at all?

My mum and dad were amazing. They are very supportive and and say they're will help any way they can. They've gone away away for the weekend now and I spent two hour in bed this afternoon in tears. My dh was working at home and came and spoke to me. I told him how I was feeling. I think things are just quite black and white with him - saying things like "do you not want the baby then?" Was hardly helpful. On the other hand though he did say some supportive things. I just think a lot less of his life is effected by this than mine. Obviously pregnancy and birth but I already have a job, do 90% of housework and more than my fair share looking after our daughter. I don't know how I'll cope in all honesty.