Pregnant with best friend

[Zarfin]

Thought it would be awesome to be pregnant at the same with my best friend but after all i feel very deflated about it. A bit like my thunder has been stolen especially as I have had a lot of complications and been admitted to hospital a few times.

Yet my friends pregnancy has been a breeze. And still she keeps saying how she has found whole pregnancy so stressfull. I mean how dares she when I have been through hell with mine?

Of course I shouldnt compare, but cant help it and find it extremely offensive when she says things like that. We have 4 days between our due dates (im 37+4 and she is 38+1) but she has just gone to labour and for some reason i cannot get excited for her at all..

Has anyone else faced similar feelings?

Her pregnancy has probably been stressful for different reasons to yours although she could be more sensitive when saying it to you knowing what you've been through. Iv had an uncomplicated pregnancy but it has also been very stressful at times.

This is a new experience for both of you but I must admit I wouldn't be that pleased to be pregnant at the same time as my best friend either.

Try and look forward to when the babies are here they will be so close it age and I think you will find it so nice to be able to share experiences with your best friend and the little ones together.

X

Even uncomplicated pregnancies can be stressful. I think you're being quite unreasonable.

You sound a bit jealous and bitter that the attention is not on you, sorry if that's not the case!

Pregnancy isn't a competition, and affects everyone differently.

I've been lucky and have very few symptoms, but I still moan like a little bitch about how tired I am, which drives my mates mad!

Try being happy for her - you'll probably both appreciate the support once babies are here

I do think no two are the same. Hospitalisation for complications sounds horrible so I sympathise there but there are plenty of other physical and mental symptoms which can be a struggle.

Her feeling it's been a struggle doesn't take away from yours. You should try and refocus so you can be there for her labour.

Hopefully the way you're feeling is influenced by hormones and being shattered. You'll both have your babies soon. If you can't stop making comparisons you're opening yourself up for a world of pain when your babies grow up at the same time.