When / how did you tell older DCs?

[Downbutnotyetout]

I have a DD who is 3 1/2 and we still haven't told her I am pregnant. Had anomaly scan this week (19 weeks) which sonographer said was all fine, although have final report at consultant appointment next week. We have had previous losses so was nervous about telling her but think now we should. Did anyone else wait this long? And how did you tell them? I want it to be special but without too much fuss in case she's not too keen on sharing initially!!
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We told our dd, who is 4, just after our 12 week scan. I did have a mc just before I got pregnant with this baby (at 8 weeks, so we hadn't told her yet and she had no idea I was pregnant previously). I personally felt after the 12 week scan that I was comfortable everything was fine. With the mc, my intuition told me almost from the moment I found out I was pregnant that something wasn't right. But I never felt like that with this pregnancy. I had 3 scans (7, 8, and 12 weeks) by that point and I felt even if I did have a later mc, it wasn't necessarily something I wanted to hide from her. It would be upsetting, yes. But she understands death and I felt it's something we could talk about, in the very unlikely event that happened. I'm 20 weeks now, just had our anomaly scan and we told her she's getting a brother yesterday. It's been a lovely experience having her involved, so I wouldn't hesitate to tell your lo now. We told her just by showing her the scan pictures and getting her to guess what she thought they were.

We told our DD1 after the 20 week scan, mainly because I knew how excited & impatient she would be & wanted to leave it as late as possible but I was starting to show by then. Also we wanted to find out the sex so we were able to tell her she would have a little sister. We spent a few weeks beforehand asking her if she would like a little brother or sister & bigging up how fun it would be so that when we told her she was getting one she now thinks we have done it specially for her.

We told my dd at around 12 weeks, she was excited , and then after we confirmed everything in Anomoly scan was all good, we took her for sexing scan with us. Was very exciting and lovely for her to be a part of it. (Even though she wanted a sister and got a brother) all very happy

I didn’t tell my DD’s, the nosey Parker’s managed to find out themselves!
I could hear them whispering in their bedroom. Dd1 who is 9 had gone in the bathroom cupboard for the new hand soap and discovered my positive pregnancy test that I failed to move (frer had the pregnant/not pregnant line diagram on it, pretty self explanatory). I was around 9 weeks I think at the time. They outright asked me if I was.
I’d had two mc’s before this baby, the first of which the girls new about. They say that Baby lives on the moon.
When I said yes i am pregnant both girls jumped up and down and then burst into tears saying the moon Baby had flown back to stay with us.

We had a private gender scan at 19 weeks as well. We put things in a box for the girls to open. We put some little pink shoes in and the scan pic which said ‘it’s a girl’ on it. It made it special as it was just DD’s, DH and I who opened the box. We then let the girls tell our families in a video they’re going to have a baby sister.

37 weeks now so they were right, moon Baby has come back to stay 😊

I didn't tell my 2 yr old - we just started reading the book 'There's a house inside my mummy' a few times and she sort of figured it out. She looked at my tummy one day (probably around 19/20 weeks) and said 'oh...' and then the next day looked again and said there's a baby in there. I'm not sure she's totally clear on the fact the baby will be coming out at some point though.