Due on my sisters in laws wedding day..

[Wannabeamum1]

Hello,

I have just found out that I am pregnant whilst on holiday with my DH. We are extremely happy about this!

However, just used a due date calculator and I am apparently due 2 days before my sister in laws (DHs sister) wedding. We are now terrified to tell her and worry that this will causes problems as this is a huge wedding that has been being planned for years.

We had been trying for 6 months until August, after which we decided to have a break. The first month we stopped trying we became pregnant!

Am I being stupid to worry so much? Would you be angry? Any advice/support would be great! What would have been an extremely happy announcement is not becoming quite scary :(

These things can't be helped!

Is the wedding close by? So if worst came to it your DH could pop along for a bit?

Any reasonable person would just be happy for you!!

Remember only 4% of dc arrive on time. And first ones less!!

1. do you have a role in the wedding - bridesmaid or anything?
2. What about DH - ??usher or something?

She won't be angry unless she's a total bitch, but I wouldn't blame her if amongst her happiness for you she is a little gutted about the timing.

Babies come when they come, you've done nothing wrong and I'm sure she will understand. Nearer the time, if you or your husband can make it along for any part of it (depends where it is obviously) then great, and on the actual day make sure the attention isn't completely taken away from her wedding - remember she is a bride for 24 hours but your little one will be around for the rest of your life!

Congratulations, and I hope you have a happy pregnancy - come and join us on the June due thread

Other people's lives can't go on hold just because someone is getting married. She should be happy for you regardless of timing and understand you might not make the day. If not then she is being a first class knob about it. Don't feel you have to tell her before you are ready to tell anyone else. Congratulations!

Does she know you were trying?

It shouldn't be any problem at all, unless she's a total cow. Congratulations.

I'm sure they're going to be thrilled for you, regardless of the timing. First babies are very rare to arrive early or even on your due date, go by your 42 week date. It's a perfect excuse not to have to do much on the day other than sit and enjoy it. Sounds lovely to me .

I'd have loved it if someone from my wedding party went into lsbour/gave birth

Thank you everyone! Very reassuring!

Her wedding unfortunately is about 6 hours drive from home. We live in the south east and all of his family in the north!

Not a bridesmaid luckily! DH is an usher though.

I completely understand her being a little gutted, I will be doing my best to not take any attention from her on the day whatever happens! We get on really well though so hopefully should all be fine - first grandchild for the in laws. Got an early scan booked next week then going to tell if all okay - fingers crossed!

Thank you :)

I was due the week before my BIL's wedding and then went overdue. DS arrived the day before the wedding. DH travelled up the morning of the wedding (5hr drive) and then came back down the next day. I was in hospital anyway so didnt mind at all. They've never held it against us and DH got all the congratulations from his extended family and got to show off newborn photos and I got some bonding time with DS. Hopefully you will have no issues!

My best friend/maid of honour gave birth on my wedding day! Obviously I was a little sad she couldn't make it but I'd known for 9 months that it was a possibility so we were both prepared she may miss it and it was lovely really that we were both going through these two massive life transitions at exactly the same time! We joke now that the baby was my 'wedding present!'

I only think your SIL will have an issue if she's a 'don't steal my thunder/I need all the attention' kind of person. Hopefully she will just be super happy and excited for you :)