so what am I having?????!!!!!

[snipersmum]

I got a lot of support when I posted here at 20 weeks about being told I was having a girl, which took me a lot of time to adjust to, as I had 'ishoooooos'; but to cut a long story short, after counselling, making myself collect pink clothes, a private scan to confirm it was a girl etc etc, I went today, 2 days overdue for another scan and the doc said to DS1 'look, there's your brother' as the scan was going on....... So, I have spent ages ironing frilly stuff, choosing girls names and now I am not sure all over again!!!!! One thing's for sure, if bubs is a boy, the first 2 days will be in pink, sadly....... DH reckons as doc is german, it was a slip of the tongue, I am kind of wanting to agree, what do you all think???

Not sure, but lovely to hear of mum enthusiastic about having two boys. I'm a mother of two boys myself, expecting a third baby, and have become a little hurt by hearing a lot of pro-girl/anti-boy sentiment (but possibly just being a little paranoid- perhaps people just assume you want a change when they ask you every 5 minutes if you are hoping for a girl this time!). What were your girl issues incidentally, as I haven't seen your first thread? Re the scan, weren't you tempted to ask the doctor to confirm his opinion? I had a similar thing with my last scan at 30 weeks. The first thing I said when I walked into the room was "I do not want to know the sex of the baby", and the sonographer then made about 6 references to "his legs" or "he's just turned round so I can't measure his tummy". I was really miffed as I knew what I was having with the first two and wanted a surprise this time as definitely my last baby. Since telling other people about it, I have become all confused, as they keep saying things like "the sonographer probably refers to all babies as he, and it doesn't necessarily mean anything". I had just adjusted to having a third boy but now feel a bit uncertain again!

hi Rosetip, congrats on no 3. I love having 2 boys - they are really close in age and it was worth all the hard work to see how well they get on now and play together. My dream was always a third boy, partly because I find boys easier, partly because I have a v bad relationship with my own mother and partly because the pink/dolly thing seemed so foreign. I guess I was scared of girls - the ones I know seem to need much more subtle parenting and I think I was scared of that - but the counselling has really helped. I know what you mean about the pro girl sentiment - what annoyed me more than anything was people assuming we were having a third becuase we were somehow disappointed to have 2 boys, which made me angry on behalf of DS2 who is a complete treasure. I was tempted to ask the doctor, but as DH and the children were in the room I didn't as it would have opened up a huge can of worms, and I guess I will know soon. I hope it really is a surprise for you - and do post and let us know what you have!!

Hi snipersmum - Let us know what happens in the end! I'll be keeping my eye on birth announcements

I think it's a baby.
(have been using this line on 'ooh, do you know what you're having?' people today )

Hello - I've been getting really excited about buying a girly pressie for you but now - am definitely going to have to wait until the announcement card arrives! Actually, I very nearly got a girly pressie on Monday but then decided not to - perhaps it was an oman.
I'm sure it was the doc making a mistake or perhaps the previous person was having a brother and he got carried away and called your's a brother too? Whatever happens, it'll be a very cute baby with 2 lovely brothers to love it too. I thought you'd have gone into labour by now! Bet you're getting abit fed up - are you still having contractions? I'm at my parents until a week Saturday so will be in touch once I get home. Say Hi to DH for us - my DH keeps asking how you all are and says "Hi" and has the baby arrived yet.

Oh wow snipersmum and rosehip i find both your stories amazing, but a bit heartbreaking -with so much confusion. How could they get two scans one way and another the other.

Did you get a look yourself?????
I was unsure of finding out sex for this reason, but dh wanted to, so I asked the sonographer to show me to see, if i could guess. I guessed boy and was right but only really got the point when she pointed to it all. I then said i wasn't sure about finding out as what if it was wrong, so she showed me several times and gave me a photo of his bits.

Although now I wish I did have a suprise, the grass is always greener.

Rosehip, don't understand why the sonographer kept saying he, very bad when she could of said baby, unless she was stirring you.

Good Luck ladies.

Hi everyone,
Uki, my instinct is that the sonographer wasn't stirring. My baby is huge, off the scale (had a diabetes test last week and all ok), and I think she was possibly so amazed by the measurements that she just forgot herself and slipped up a bit. I've got another scan next week and am planning to say "please conduct the entire scan in silence and just tell me at the end what the measurements are and if there are any problems". Hopefully this should do the trick. As for me recognising the bits, I've never been too good with scan pictures and to be honest I haven't tried too hard to look this time- I do like the idea of having a photo of his pre-term bits though- great blackmail material for the future!
MrsBadger- great idea, will bear in mind for future. The closest I have come to this is a few days ago when a complete stranger came up to me on school run asking the usual questions about wanting a girl, to which I replied very sarcastically "do you know, you're the very first person to ask me this", which sadly she didn't pick up on and proceeded to advise me that I would have an imbalance in my family otherwise (like I have any choice in the matter). Even worse, a few very casual acquaintances have been going up to my best pal at the school gates asking her if I'm hoping for a girl and, even worse, was the baby planned? B*y cheek!
Snipersmum, I have pondered your scan dilemma but still no further forward. They normally can tell the sex at 20 weeks (in fact they can at the 12 week nuchal scan but tend to keep quiet about it), and of course you went for a private scan as well. Having said that, it would have been very silly and insensitive for a doctor to get it wrong at such a late stage, especially when speaking to a child. It sounds as though your baby is very imminent. I'm going to the seaside for a few days due to amazingly good bank holiday weather forecast, so if anything happens in my absence the very best of luck. I'm sure that when the new little person arrives you will all fall in love with him/her no matter the sex!