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Pregnant after ectopic

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hereagain99 · 18/09/2017 22:20

Hi all,

Just as the subject says I am pregnant after an ectopic pregnancy 3 years ago. We tried for a while to get pregnant again after the ectopic but we didn't have much luck so we just gave up trying or even hoping to have another child. We have a DD, 8 years old, and also had a few miscarriages in between and before the ectopic.

I am 6w and 3 days pregnant and I am waiting for Monday to have an early scan in my early pregnancy unit. Hopefully we will know what is happening. I am very scare at the moment and so it's my partner, he strongly feels that he almost killed me last time when I had the ectopic. I am not sure if to be happy or to cry. I don't want to go through the same situation than last time as it was very stressful. Also it would be a lot more difficult to protect our DD from what may happen. She didn't know what really happened last time as she was too young to understand and we just told her that my tummy was poorly and I needed an operation to make it better.

Has anyone had a successful pregnancy after an ectopic? Any pain that I feel freaks me out thinking that something may be going wrong. Any experiences and/or comments would be much appreciated. I know I need to relax and wait but it is hard.

Sorry for such a long post and thank you in advance.

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SE13Mummy · 18/09/2017 22:27

Yes. Ruptured ectopic after miscarriages. Had subsequent miscarriages too but DD2 is the post-ectopic that stuck. I was anxious throughout the pregnancy as I daren't believe it would work out ok. But it did.

The dark days post-ectopic were long and lonely. It was 8 years ago now but I still remember those months with utter sadness.

I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly this time.

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hereagain99 · 18/09/2017 22:32

Thank you. I still remember every single thing from the ectopic and it is very sad. Now I don't know what to feel. I would love this pregnancy to go ahead but I don't want to get to excited as previous experience tells me that at any time things can go completely wrong.

I guess it is just a waiting game right now.

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bridieb · 19/09/2017 08:40

I had an ectopic this year and was discharged in May. I found out a week ago that I'm pregnant again. Like you I have an early scan next Wednesday - I am rather nervous to say the least! Nothing to do except wait and spend too much time reading lots of articles online which is not always the best of ideas!

Blueeyes91 · 19/09/2017 16:30

I had an ectopic back in March this year. In early August I found out I was pregnant again and my mind instantly went into panic mode. Every niggle I felt concerned me.

I had my early scan and they confirmed that baby was where baby was supposed to me. I spoke with the doctor in epu and the niggles I was feeling were more than likely from the scarring from my ectopic.

Even early on your body is getting ready. Any stretching is going to cause scarring to niggle. It's easier said than done, but try and relax. Take a warm bath (not too hot). Get your husband to give you a back rub. Anything to help your body relax.

At 6 weeks I had sore breasts and morning sickness. I was also pretty emotional, I'd watch something with a little bit of sad and I'd be in floods of tears.

I know not everyone gets symptoms at 6 weeks, or even at all. But if you've got any, be thankful for them. They're a sign that your hormones are going crazy and things are on track!

I hope this helps and I've my fingers crossed for you all!

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hereagain99 · 19/09/2017 17:02

Thank you ladies. Blue eyes I am glad everything is going well for you. Birdies I really hope everything goes well for you. I gave up reading years ago when we didn't seem to have much luck getting pregnant again. This pregnancy has been a massive surprise. I have just started working full time and we didn't plan it at all.

I guess we will have to wait and see what happens on Monday.

Thanks again for sharing your experiences which I know it can be very difficult as I still struggle to talk about it.

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tabletopsbs6 · 20/09/2017 13:31

I had an ectopic last August - treated with mtx. It was my first pregnancy.

I am currently 39 weeks pregnant and waiting for LO to make an appearance.

I was terrified at the beginning too - as soon as I'd had confirmation that all was where it should be, it's been pretty plain sailing since (touch wood!).

Good luck to you! X

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