I want to phone the midwife but scared to

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I have AND And had an awful weekend. I phoned midwife a few Saturdays ago and she was brilliant but I can't stop crying today and I need to,phone them again but I don't want to raise concerns again

He wants to go to tbe wedding so he'll go

Is there anyone at all you can call round to sit with you and talk? You need to be around people. Does your hospital have a pregnancy assessment unit? Maybe you could ring up and ask to speak to a midwife over the phone and they might want you to go up to be seen.

Do you have to stay home alone next weekend? Can you go to relatives or friends?

I spoke to a midwife she referred me to a team but it's where I work so its a no go. I'm not close to my family and don't want friends knowing my business

I know how you feel . I too feel like this at the moment . I suffer from bpd and have a psychiatric team around me for support . The symptoms you describe won't get you sectioned . You could ring the crisis team and they will offer you support . It's truly horrible when your feeling so low . Iv had a shit day today and really upset my dh and kids cos I have been snappy and miserable . Please ring the crisis team or the samaritans

If your husband absolutely has to go to the wedding I think you really should see if a friend can spend the time with you so you're not alone whilst you feel like this. You really shouldn't be on your own while feeling so low as it isn't fair.

I agree with you need to tall to someone. Please contact crisis team. I had AND and it's horrible. I regularly had suicidal thoughts throughout pregnancy and didn't get sectioned but had help from crisis team.

Why is your husband going away causing you so much worry ? If he is at a wedding why can't you go also?

It's a long flight. I'll stay at home with the dog.

Well did you tell the midwife you won't seek help from that team because it's where you work, did you ask her to suggest a different option?

Why is it causing you so much worry him going away for one weekend ? Do you not trust him ? Are you on anti depressants ? I was on sertreline throughout two pregnancies . They are safe to take in pregnancy so maybe this is an option for you ??

Could you not tell just one friend? I know if you were one of mine I'd be there for you Namechange

I'm up all night peeing. The dog is big so I struggle with her. Theres no other crisis team in the area so I'll just leave it and get on with it. People have their own lives and my friends are gossips so I don't want everyone knowing my issues it's embarrassing enough. I trust him yes

I'm prescribed ADs but I'm scared to take them

I'm a midwife, please take your medication and call your midwife. Mental health issues in pregnancy are very common and nothing to be ashamed of, please let her help you. Also I think you need to have a very frank conversation with your husband about going away and leaving you when you need his support.

Phone your local hospital ask for the mental health midwife as standard midwife may not have the education to help you

Why are you scared to take your ADs? They would not give them to you if they were harmful. Your mental health is important.

Please seek help and take your tablets.

OP I had antenatal depression and felt exactly how you say you feel. It was terrifying. I was full of rage, wanted to scream, shout, smash things- id cry hysterically for hours and hours. i would walk out of the house and stay out for hours. Just walking around all night thinking about how fucked up I felt. I was referred to mental health services, but by the time they got to me, the depression had- strangely/
just lifted. I just woke up one day and felt "normal". MW told me it was because it's tied to hormones- clearly hormones had just levelled out. I didn't have postnatal depression, by the way, but did develop postnatal anxiety about 6 months pp... no idea if the two are linked, or I was just unlucky.

Please speak to someone asap. You don't need sectioning but you do need support to get through this.

There is no such role as a mental health midwife . Please speak to your gp tomorrow . They can refer you to the phychiatry dept and allocate you a specialist mental health nurse who will visit you at home

@mum

I was referred to a midwife specialising in mental health. They do exist.

Yes there is, @Mumof41987: <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.rcm.org.uk/sites/default/files/MMHA%2520SMHMs%2520Nov%252013.pdf&ved=0ahUKEwi3q6nn2qzWAhUKWhoKHbAgAogQFggoMAA&usg=AFQjCNHv8FfK5BxVNcwoNNSPg1Mi6PMo0A" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">link

Hi OP,

We’re so sorry to hear that you’re feeling like this, please do seek help from a healthcare professional.

Samaritans are there for you too, 24/7, by emailing [email protected] or calling 116 123. You can also see the resources in our Mental Health webguide.

Very best wishes from all at MNHQ.

Hmm, I'm not sure that link worked. It goes to a pdf download (or should do anyway) about the role of specialist mental health midwives.