Finding out VS waiting for the birth

[Saz626]

I'm currently 18 weeks pregnant with my second baby and having my 20 week scan in 2 weeks time. Me and my oh are really stuck on whether to find out or not. My oh has a dd from a previous relationship and we have a dd together. We didn't find out with our dd and it was amazing having that moment at the birth and then telling our family and friends. I'm just not sure if this time round it would be best to find out so we can get ourselves organised with already having children. Anyone done both and preferred one to the other? Or has anyone just some experience with doing either way? X

Well we succumbed and found out what our little baby is. He's a little boy!! We're both so excited and over the moon. Not an ounce of regret for finding out. It was special in its own way

For me, the birth is too unpredictable. It would be lovely if baby is put straight in your arms and find out together with father but the reality can be so different. Both mine were taken straight away to be checked by paediatrician so I could never have had that moment. As it was we found out at scans and that was amazing in its own own right.