Pregnancy #5 Baby #2 PLEASE HELP

[luciouslulaaa]

As the subject states this is my 5th Pregnacy but miscarried three times. I am sooo scared beyond belief. I have nightmares of miscarrying again..I can't get this horrible feeling away I am around 8 weeks and have 2nd scan on 5th Oct. I really don't know what to do. Every twinge I'm wondering if it's normal. My last full pregnancy was 2 years ago and I can't seem to remember what is normal. I miscarried at 7 weeks on July 13th. Someone please help me feel at ease as I fear I will do baby more harm than good

Hi, I saw your post last night and having seen no-one has answered I've just stopped lurking and joined so I could respond. It's completely normal to feel how you are after miscarrying, I had a mc 15 years ago and still think about it, but please try not to torture yourself, it was not your fault and it doesn't mean it will happen again. Can you talk to your partner or midwife about how you feel?

A private scan helped me, though I still worry. I had one at 10wks to help me cope with the NHS one at 12wks.

Have you asked your GP or the Early Pregnancy Unit at your local hospital for a reassurance scan? You should have been referred to the Recurrant Miscarriage Unit for years after 3 miscarriages. It's completely natural to feel as you do when you have suffered so much loss.

There are groups on the antenatal board that are for women who are pregnant after miscarriage. Talking to others in the same boat might help.

Good luck!

Do you know what gestation you miscarried before?

There's some very reassuring info on the miscarriage association website which suggests that seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks increased the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that went up to 99.4%.

I had a private scan at 8 weeks (measured 8+6) and the sonographer said at that point there was virtually no chance of a miscarriage. I'm now 10+1 and my 12 week scan is also the 5th October!

@luciouslulaaa sorry for your losses, it's awful I know and takes away the joy of pregnancy.
This is my 3rd successful pregnancy out of a potential of 7 babies I should have had. I miscarried my first pregnancy, identical twins after a car accident broke my waters at 21+5. Dd1 was a twin, mc'd her twin at 8 weeks. Dd2 was ok no problems. I then went on to have have two more mc's last year before I fell pregnant in Jan of this year. Currently 35 weeks pregnant.
I know it's really really difficult but try to stay positive. I told myself in the beginning this time that worrying won't change the outcome so I got on and tried to enjoy as much as I could.
As one pp said, after a heart beat is detected on a scan the risk of mc decreases significantly as well.
Wishing you luck with your pregnancy 😊

Had you asked before the reason of your miscarriages? To be afraid at this time is not issue. It happens. If all is going normal then no need to be worried. Your baby will be save. Enjoy this time period as much as you can. If you take stress or tension, then it would be harmful for your baby. Keep good sleep and balanced diet. You have only two weeks far of your scan. Join some positive activity to spend your time. It will help to vanish your fear. You will forget about your earlier miscarriages. A miscarriage doesn't meant that it will happen again. Take it easy and dreamt about your baby.

@SpeckyB

I can't have any special treatment as I had two miscarriages before my son and one after. They told me I have to have 3 miscarriages in a row. I had a scan at 5 weeks with this one and everything was normal but I have not got another for another few weeks. They found heartbeat but I cannot shake this feeling something's will go wrong 😢😢😢

@suzi763

They never give me a reason for the third. And for the first two I never sought medical advice due to being in abusive relationships(physically&mentally) although I was thrown against a sofa arm to where my stomach smacked the wooden arm and the fell and was kicked with the first so pretty sure that was the cause(I'm with a new partner now, not new but different) . I try dream well but had two nightmares that I lost the baby further on. I don't think it helps that my mom last my brother at 20 weeks and had to deliver him😢😢

@amyb1986

Sorry for your losses. I try think the best but this pregnancy is soo different to my sons as I am soo poorly with this one but with my son I had no symptoms till my bump came and then it was just heartburn. I never know what's normal as like I say I never had sickness cramps etc with my son

@luciouslulaaa this pregnancy for me had been different to my other too. I've had practically no symptoms which was really worrying as I had HG with my other successful babies and sore boobs which I only get when I have mc'd in the past.
I was anxious a lot and had to keep having a word with myself. Once I got past 28 weeks that worry seemed to lessen.
Really hope everything works out for you 😊

Amyb1986

Thank you for your kind words. I think I worry less after 24 weeks as I know if I go into labour they can step in and help but ant stage before that the midwives can't x