Pregnant again #4 devastated

[Positiveone2]

Hi all
Just found out I'm pregnant again. I have 3 girls 18,16 and 7
I'm shocked as I don't know how I'm going to cope financially and emotionally.
Told my husband and he's in absolute shock too.
Made him promise me that he won't tell anyone.
I feel embarrassed although Secretly hoping for a boy but i don't even have the courage to tell the girls 🙈
What am I going to do!!

You don't have to have the baby if you don't want it.

Why is it a shock? Failed contraception? Failed snip? How kld are you?

Youre hoping for a boy so clearly wanting to continue with the pregnancy. How far aking are you?

I'm 39 years old, 5 -6 weeks pregnant.
On the pill so shouldn't have happened.
Didn't feel right and did the test. I do feel old as my eldest is 18. Honestly I don't know what to do.

It doesn't sound as though you definitely don't want the baby, just that it's a massive shock and will take some getting used to...

Although obviously there are options out there if you decide you can't continue

I've got three, I'd be gutted too. But, you know you agree probably well placed to cope ok. However, only you know how you feel really, its up to you (and hopefully with support of dp) to do what's best for you. because that helps too.

I feel terrible for just thinking the way I am 😔.

Must be a shock. Remember you have options and plenty of time to decide so don't feel rushed.

Think carefully about the effects this will have on your older children.

Think carefully about the effects this will have on your older children.

As in... what effects? Maybe they will be really chuffed to have a younger sibling. I would have loved to have another sister or brother. This can be a changing experience in a positive way too!

Just to say my mum had my sister when I was 22 and my sister was 17, I had a 2 and 3 yo at the time. My sister is now 10 and absolutely loved to bits, she loves having older sisters and coming for sleepovers etc.

Hi there,

Sort of in the same boat. I found out this morning I'm expecting my 5th, have two girls aged 14 and 8 and two boys aged 6 and 9. Totally unexpected, I'm in total shock. I haven't even told my partner yet. Just trying to get my head around it myself. I hadn't planned on having anymore and still feeling unsure what to do.

Just wanted to let you know you're not alone x

Sounds like a part of u wants baby??

If you had a miscarriage tomorrow, how would you feel?
Relieved? Upset? A bit of both?

Sometimes pondering this question can help clarify your mind once the shock has settled

I fell pregnant at 38 totally unplanned I was also on the pill. My Dd1 was 23. I had no plans to have anymore children EVER. I was in total shock so was DH.

Sometimes things happen for a reason. Dd2 is nearly 2 now.

Thank you to everyone that replied.
Yes part of me wants it but I'm in denial still.
And yes I would feel terrible if I was to have a miscarriage, but I'm so confused..
I haven't seen a midwife yet as I just want to forget about it.
How am I going to cope with 4!
I'd have to leave my job, and probably won't be able to go back either. 😐