Will my boss be angry?

[Ambyaidy]

Hi all

I'm just over 12 weeks only got my scan date in the post today and it's for this Monday ! It's so short notice and I'm working all day, my work know I'm pregnant and I know you are aloud time off for appointments. Do you think they will find this unreasonable? I have already phoned and asked for a different date but they are so booked up it would be weeks before another appointment became available 😐

You're going to have to grow up a bit.

They might be but they'll have to get over it! Sometimes things are booked last minute which they'll be aware of. Hope your scan goes well

'Allowed time off'? Try 'legally required to provide time off to attend appointments'. You are the only one who can truly prioritise your pregnancy and you need to whether or not your boss is supportive.

It's tough if he's angry. Does he get like that often? Just tell him you have an appointment which is not optional. It's his problem if he has anger issues and should probably have some management training.

Sorry to go for a sarcastic response. But really, you need to be assertive and tell them what you need

You can't help it, and your boss might share your irritation at the lack of notice, but realise that this is an important appointment. It's not your fault, it's someone's inefficiency.

Don't change any of your appointment times. Your pregnant, you get time off for appointments. It's illegal to stop you from going off. Not sure if it is a legal requirement for every company but I got paid for all of my pregnancy appointment.

Thanks for the replies and as for the grow up a bit a be more assertive I am well aware of my rights it was more of seeing if some people would feel the same as me. If you have nothing nice to say don't say it 😕 My boss is female and had children I'm just going by how I feel which is a bit crap leaving it so late notice knowing they are short staffed but suppose not much I can do. I am looking forward to my scan thanks again x

If you know you are legally entitled to this, we don't know your boss. We don't know how she is, so with all due respect, i'm not really sure what you're asking of us.
hope the scan goes well.

I worried about telling my manager too so you aren't alone don't worry! It was obvious she wasn't happy as she would have to step onto the ward to cover (nursing!) but by the end I'd had so many appointments I was used to just telling them and ignoring their reaction basically

I think some of the comments here are needlessly harsh (thats mumsnet for you!)

OP, I would be nervous about this to but at the end of the day its yr 12 week scan, its very important! Speak to your manager, apologise for the short notice but say it is out of your hands.

You must not change the time. The triple test ultrasound MUST be done in a certain time window. If it's done too late the nuchal fold measurement cannot be done as the growing lymphatic system kicks in and sucks the fluid out. So no changing!

You must not change the date.

Your response to your boss is to STATE (not ask!) you have an important medical appointment at time x.

"Hi boss, as you know I'm pregnant. On date x I was given an ultrasound appointment. This cannot be changed - it has to be done within a certain time window. As you know wherever possible I arrange appointments so there is minimal disruption to work. However this cannot be changed. I will be out from x to x.'
Copy HR in.
Keep any email replies - anything arsey get them to email you so you have a paper trail.

From someone who was also worried about taking time off (although employer didn't know I was pregnant). I delayed my 12 week
Scan which meant I missed the nuchal fold cut off for Down syndrome (realise you may not be concerned with this) however it caused me unnecessary stress and worry when there shouldn't have been.

My employer was too concerned when they made me redundant whilst I was pregnant fwiw.

Hi OP,

Surely you will only need to pop away for an hour or so?

You are entitled to take time for maternity appointments so you'll be fine.

@RhubardGin I had my 12 week scan done a few weeks ago. The scan was nearly 20 mins and then you have to go and get bloods taken. That was another 30 mins coz of the wait. And it's an hour to and from the hospital and my work place. So there's no way I could've done it in an hour.

That was me trying to be friendly in my second message. Oops. But I guess every workplace is different. We managed our own diaries at my last workplace and would just liaise with team mate and let line manager know if we were using half a day's flexi for something, assuming no important events were on. That's why I couldn't really take a boss getting angry seriously. But of course not every place is like that.

I actually am stressing big time about telling new employer I'm pregnant. I suspect they won't be as flexible as I'm used to.

I guess the point is that it's important you look at 'how you feel', and realise it's not the right way to feel- you need to feel more comfortable about prioritising your pregnancy over your employment in all the legally supported ways, and other more minor ways also.