Scan and no heartbeat

[Lizzymamaof1]

Hi everyone
Had a 12 week scan and found that there was no growth after 6 weeks and no heart beat
Had a D&C as was abroad when it happened this was a few days ago I am still feeling heartbroken and am having the rest of the week off work
I am also going to my GP this afternoon as I am in so much pain with my stomach and also finding it hard to sit down as it hurts when I do. Has anyone else had a missed miscarriage happen? And then had a D & c ? How long did it take to recover ? And when did you feel emotionally and physically well again. I feel guilty about work but I can't face going back this week.

Also I'm worried that it has ruined my chance of having children again has anyone conceived after a miscarriage / d&c?

Hey

So so sorry this has happened to you, especially at 12 week scan. I had a diagnosed MMC last Tues after bleeding. Same as you, hadn't grown since around 6 weeks. I didn't have d&c, I had the tablets so can't offer much advice there but re the work situ, don't feel guilty, this isn't something you've done, it happened TO you. So go back when you feel ready.

If it helps, there are several threads re TTC after MC - on body and soul board have a look at the miscarriage/pregnancy loss thread, and on this one, there's something like "staying postificken after MC" (apologies for spelling!)

You are definitely not alone. Sadly lots of us here who have been through same. Hope you get some reassurance xx

You haven't ruined your chances of conceiving again. I am sorry this has happened but don't let it scare you from trying again. These things happen unfortunately I wish I could say something more to help
Don't feel guilty about work. You come first not work take as long as you feel necessary.

Sorry to hear this has happened to you too

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope that your GP can shed some light for you.

It took me a couple of weeks to stop bleeding which was a bit exhausting, and the general cramps that came along after settled down completely after a week or so.

Take it day by day, and week by week. I'm not sure about conceiving afterwards as I'm still waiting for that to happen (others have done), but you haven't ruined any future chance to do so

Hello, i'm sorry for your loss

I had a mmc in September 2013, it was discovered at my 12 week scan the baby had died at 8 weeks, I had an erpc to remove him a week later.

I too was worried my chance of conceiving again would be affected of that I may loose another pregnancy.

We fell pregnant the following January, and I gave birth in August 2014, (a bit prem) to a healthy little boy :)

I won't lie the first 12 week's were awful, I had a private scan at 7 weeks which did relaxe me a little but the night before my 12 week scan was horrendous. But all was well and my little boy is amazing !!

Don't give up hope!!

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. I had a missed mc in March (5 weeks) and had the d&c at 11 weeks. We found out at an early private scan at 8 weeks but waited for it to happen naturally, though opted for the d&c when it didn't on its own after 3 weeks (this was in April). It was really difficult emotionally and I really struggled though 3 weeks of waiting and for the next month or so after.

Physically, I felt okay again after about 7-9 days. I have fairly heavy bleeding for the first few days after and then I had some cramping and even heavier bleeding on day 6, which seemed to be the last of it. The cramping was really painful. They do advise being seen if you have pain and heavy bleeding that lasts a bit, but for me that worst bit was only an afternoon and by the time I was home (that was my first day back at work) it was over and I felt fine again. Please do not feel guilty about taking time off work. I took off a month in total, 3 weeks while I waited for mc to happen as I travel for work and was too afraid to be hours from home and going through it on my own, and then only went back to work 6 days after (mostly because I was losing my mind sitting at home still, probably I should have taken off more time). You're experiencing both a bereavement and recovery from major surgery. You should be resting and taking care of yourself.

I would also really try not to worry yourself too much about struggling to get pregnant again. Most women go on to have no trouble conceiving again. Yes, there is a small risk with a d&c, though less so if it's your first one, of infertility. But there's no reason to worry until you know you have too. I was very emotional about that as well. I'm 36 and felt like the time was already coming when I might have trouble getting pregnant. We just wanted one last baby and I felt I was already pushing it with my age. We went back to trying again as soon as I got my next period after the d&c and I was pregnant that first month. I'm now 17 weeks with that baby and it's been smooth sailing and easier even than my previous healthy pregnancy with no complications at all from the mc or the d&c. It's also been very healing.

Hang in there. It will get easier in time, but the early days and weeks are tough. Be gentle with yourself and take time to get back on your feet.

So sorry for your loss

I had a mmc last October and elected for a d&c because I didn't want to have to wait for nature to take its course. The pain after for me was bearable and I recovered physically quickly. Emotionally it took a lot longer and I still have moments where it makes me really sad, mostly key dates such as due date etc.

Happily I'm 18 weeks pg now so it didn't affect my fertility. I've been terrified of the same thing happening again but have had 3 scans and all have been absolutely fine. I'm 36 so I thought my chance had gone but all is ok

Take time to look after yourself, it's a horrible thing to have happened

Thank you everyone for your support

I've been the GP today as I am in pain. He's checked me out and thinks I'm ok but gave me anti biotics just in case. Now I'm worried even more !

I think emotionally it took a good 5-6 months but it'll always be upsetting.

Physically I didn't have a D&C but it was about 3 weeks.

I had a d&c at 9 weeks in the September and fell pregnant in the January.

Emotionally it was a bit difficult as it was my second mc and due to other reasons (flying) I had to give myself injections for a week for blood thining which traumatised me even more!

I was really teary for a month, think it was my hormones settling.

So sorry to hear of your loss @Lizzymamaof1. I had a MMC discovered at 11.5 weeks and went on to have an ERPC. I conceived 9 cycles later and am now 20 weeks pregnant, all going well so far. :)

I had pain on and off for maybe a month. Emotionally it took much longer to recover - honestly, I'm not sure I really felt better until I was pregnant again. It was at its worst 2 months post-ERPC which I was surprised at.