Natural miscarriage

[Michelle1988]

Hi,

I went for my 12 week scan today and was told there was no heart beat and baby looked 9 weeks.
I am going back on Monday for a repeat scan and then to be given the medication to help the process along.
I have started to bleed only spotting at the moment. Can anyone help me what is going to happen and if it will hurt? Me and my husband were going to go out today about hour away from where I live. Should I still go out or is it best to stay in? X

I've had 2 early miscarriages, 6-7weeks, and I'd say stay at home and take it easy. One of mine was painful, one wasn't really, but both times a lot of bleeding.

There's a pregnancy loss board here too where you might get more info.

I'm so sorry for what you're going though

I have also had two early miscarriages, one of which was at 9 weeks. For me it wasn't very painful, period cramping over a couple of days but totally manageable. That said it can vary so much from person to person. Be prepared with the strongest pain relief you can get your hands on and heavy duty pads.

If it gives you any comfort after 2 miscarriages I'm now 17 weeks with my second child. I'm really sorry this has happened and hope it's over quickly.

I had a mmc at 1p.5 weeks, baby measured 8 weeks.
You will need a lot of pads and pain relief. I was told it would be like a bad period, but it really wasn't. There was a lot of cramping and a lot of blood. i passed a lot of blood and clots and the whole process took about 48 hoursit may sound awful but i didn't want my baby disappearing down the toilet, so think about that.
Look after yourself. The mc itself is physical but you will neefca lot of emotional support as well. Be kind to yourself. I had some help from cruse bereavement counselling which was so helpful.
I'm so sorry this has happened.
I'm not sure if it will help.or not, but i became pregnant again very quickly and our perfect, wonderful dd is now 4 months old.
thinking of you.

I am so sorry you are going through this. It really sucks that there is no real information on what happens and little support for your emotional pain afterwards. Just know that your feelings are normal and it WILL get better.

I have had a natural miscarriage at similar weeks to you. It started with spotting for me. Went for scan to be told no heartbeat but hospital dragged it out until I was over 12 weeks which was why I believe things went the way they did.

MY EXPERIENCE IN NSFW DETAIL BELOW - TRIGGER WARNING

I had contractions. Started early in day around 9am and lasted until early next morning. I went for a bath and napped most of the day as the pain got worse.

I didn't know what they were and around 8pm that night they were closer together in time and it felt like I was getting stabbed and the knife twisted for 20 seconds and then no pain so went to A&E after calling NHS24 only to be left to it. By 10pm my waters burst (all over me and the waiting room floor) and chunks/slivers of uteral lining were passed. This was a good thing, the bigger the tissue, the better as you want it all out as quickly as possible.

There were more contractions coming in slow waves. Each one hurt but I was fine in between. They stopped around 1am and I passed more lining before being let home. I do remember I stopped bleeding (it was light anyway) and I passed the fetus around 2am at home. I knew what had happened due to size and shape. There was nothing recognisable as a fetus or baby though which I am extremely grateful for. They give you a leaflet advising you to flush and something about your 'baby' being out at sea? I don't remember it well but I do remember we read that leaflet and it was so absurd and flowery we laughed. You may find yourself shaking your head at some of the information and leaflets you are given too.

After that, there were no more contractions and very little tissue coming out. It was like end of a period cycle and then a normal period.

I had to go to hospital for a scan to check if anything was left and was giving tablets and antibiotic to get anything that was left out. It was surreal to be honest.

Unless you are bleeding heavily and something is wrong, NHS 24 suggest you stay home and allow your body to do it's work. I wish I had stayed home but I never expected actual contractions! I thought it was supposed to be period cramps.

The experience was draining but I had my partner for support and we tried to use humour to make it less harrowing. I believe that worked for us. I am not traumatised by the experience and the worst for me was the emotional pain afterwards which took me over a year to fully 'get over' although you never truly get over losing a pregnancy that was wanted.

I sincerely would not wish a miscarriage on any woman but hope that my honest account of what happened to me helps you so you know what may occur and you are not left afraid and confused as I was. Hugs and best wishes to you. xx

Hey. So sorry for your loss. I found out Tuesday (when supposed to be 9+5) that our baby had died around 6 weeks after measuring a week and 3 days behind where it should've been at an early scan.

I've had first set of tablets to help it along and going in today for the rest so should be able to tell you more later.

That said, I think everyone's experience is different. I'd say stay close to home. Lots of love xx

I went in for an early scan due to spotting at 9 weeks. Was told that the baby didn't develop and there was only a sac. I had a natural miscarriage because everyone said it was like a heavy period. I don't want to scare you (everyone has different experiences) but mine was horrendous. I bleed lightly for 7 days then super heavy for 2days. During the two days, I passed LOTS of clots and had contraction like pains. I then passed the tissue (which looked nothing like what I thought it would) and went on holiday the following day with my husband and ds.

Like I said, I don't want to scare you but I wish someone told me about other possible scenarios. If I were to miscarry again, I'd opt for medical intervention.

I'm so sorry. I had a natural miscarriage at about 8 weeks at end of last year. I read an excellent thread on the miscarriage/pregnancy board where others had posted tips, advice and their experiences. I felt better being prepared for the worst. I would say my experience was that it was more than a heavy period, I had brown spotting for a few days, then increased to red bleeding and a day or so of cramps and heavy bleeding/clots. Cocodamol helped on the worst days, and a warm wheat bag. I also rested and stayed at home then. I will try and tag you on that thread I mentioned. Look after yourself.

I hope you're ok.
I had a natural mc with my second as it happened the day before my scheduled MVA. It was horrendous. Contractions. Wanting to go to A&E. drugs not touching it. Puking on the toilet floor.
No one ever tells you that.
But it seems for some people it's ok.
If i had to have another one and had the choice I would definitely choose another MVA/d&c.
Take care

I had a miscarriage 7 years ago, it was so painful I was literally sat on the floor with my arms wrapped around me. I was also at work, I bled so much I went to the hospital right away and was told I had a miscarriage. I hadn't even realised I was pregnant by this point but was early on. Was such a shock.