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No longer excited about pregnancy

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Oysterbabe · 01/09/2017 16:27

My mum died suddenly on Sunday. She was only 67. I'm 25 weeks pregnant with my second child and I had been so happy about it but I'm just not any more. I can't bare the idea that he'll never meet my mum. MIL is perfectly nice but my mum was such a character, mad as a box of frogs and all of her grandchildren adore her. I think when the baby is born it's just going to make my grief even worse. He'll very likely be the last grandchild and the only one out of 8 that will have never met her. It just doesn't seem fair.

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Lulu2515 · 01/09/2017 17:13

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

What an especially hard time to lose your DM.

Your DS may not meet her but he can grow up knowing all about her and sharing in your special memories xxx

SheSaidHeSaid · 01/09/2017 17:34

I'm so so sorry to hear about your mum.

Could you make a memory box for your baby so that he can learn all about your mum through photos, personal items and perhaps little notes with your own memories of her written down?

Sending you a very un-mumsnetty hug. Flowers

MagicMoneyTree · 01/09/2017 18:19

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Can't imagine how hard it must be for you. I'm sure I'd feel exactly the same. No need to link the grief for your Mum with how you feel about your baby though- they are two different things and it's bound to feel very raw and desperately unfair at the moment. Take care of yourself and take one day at a time. Don't put pressure on yourself to be excited about the baby for now. It's ok to grieve for your mum, so do that. Your baby doesn't actually NEED you to get excited- all it needs is nourishment, so your only job right now is to force yourself to eat even if you don't feel like it. You can work on the rest later xxx

RedPanda25 · 01/09/2017 19:33

What a truly awful time for this to be happen. It isn't fair at all that this is happening to you, even with the terrible timing. My mum died when I was younger and I feel so sad that my son hasn't met her or that my next child won't either. I try and talk to my DS about his amazing grandma and what she was like. I know it's the not the same but it helps me. Sending lots of hugs to you.

Hotpinkangel19 · 02/09/2017 04:46

@Oysterbabe I'm so sorry for your sad news Flowers
I'm 22 weeks pregnant and I lost my Dad last week, and my Mum only 11 weeks ago. I'm heartbroken, and only just managing. Do you have support? Xx

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Oysterbabe · 03/09/2017 10:08

Thanks everyone.
I'm sorry that you're going through this too Hot pink
I have my husband and 3 siblings for support. We're all just focused on my dad at the moment though, he's the one who's living alone now having lost the woman he's been with for almost 50 years.

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Hopeful2102 · 03/09/2017 10:35

Sorry about your loss! I know how your feel my mom died when I was 7. Now I'm pregnant and ashamed to admit really scared and feeling cheated. Who do I call when I need help? The fact that my child will never know it's grandma makes me so sad

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