I'm at my wits end with my relationship

[princessmumy]

I don't really know what to do anymore. This so an accidental pregnancy at the age of 19 with a guy I've been with for a year. I didn't think I could get pregnant due to a few doctors telling me it was unlikely and honestly thought I'd need ivf in the future to conceive.
He's made me cry every day, lied to me for months about smoking weed and apparently everything is just my fault. I'm terrified of being on my own when my baby comes but don't want him around her when he's like this. He doesn't listen to me and argues when he's got something in his head even if I have proof that it's wrong.
I suffer with feeling sad which has got worse since my pregnancy started and he just makes me feel terrible about it, saying that I make him depressed and to just stop crying. I do start some of the arguments but I'm 6 months pregnant and hormonal and he just doesn't accept that as a good enough reason for me to be snappy and teary. I'm just completely devastated and so unsure of what to do. This pregnancy was a mistake to keep. I honestly just don't know what to do at all

Hi

I was so sad to read your poor post I am 15 weeks pregnant and have to admit me and my partner have had some arguments during this time- however this person does not sound like he will be a good father - sometimes with men we have to teach them a lesson I would leave him and give him a list of things he needs to change in order for you to stay together if he dosent do them he isn't going to ever change - you have to think about your little baby who will love you more than any man will- that baby will need a loving home not a war zone

You have options. Never feel you don't.

What's your support network like - forget the boyfriend for a moment - who else do you have around you? Family? Friends? What are your living circumstances?

I think it would be empowering to think about what the alternatives are. You sound very reliant on him - many people lean on their partners especially during pregnancy! - but you're also fearful about him not being in the picture. You don't need to be! Work up a way you can do it by yourself - it doesn't mean you have to, but it would make you less worried about somehow pissing him off.

I don't know your relationship- plenty of people on here come on to talk about the negatives - but id certainly advise seeing if you can get some counselling through the gp to help you straighten your head. These are not easy decisions at the best of times and you need confidence in your own decisions.

Best of luck. It sounds very tough. Parenthood is hard but amazing at the same time, so you want to give yourself the best chance of enjoying your little person when they arrive