I need to air my worries

[christianc]

Hello all.

This is my first post. I'm a dad with lovely, healthy 2 year old son. My wife is 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant.

Today was our first scan. Certainly, brought back memories our 1st scan with our son. We saw our little one - moving about, very lively.

Everything was okay with the exception of a NT thickness of 3.2mm. Our little was is 51mm from crown to rump. My wife had the routine blood tests and we're awaiting blood test results.

My wife is naturally concerned with the NT result and as am I. We were told by the lady doing the scan that the threshold is 3.5mm. I'm trying to put a brave face on for the sake of my wife. But truthfully, I am absolutely petrified. I'm so scared for my future little boy or girl.

My wife knows that I'm anxious. But I don't want to completely "unload" on her. It'll make her feel worse. It's my job to look after my family and using my wife as an emotional dumping ground isn't going to help her. I know that.

But I need somebody to listen to me, maybe read this post, perhaps even reply to it with any reassurance. I am really scared.

Please help.

Hi,

Sorry you are feeling so worried. You sound lovely and a wonderful support to your wife. I'm afraid I don't have any experience with this but others certainly will. I would advise perhaps asking Mumsnet to edit your post so that yours and your sons' names are removed as this could be identifying.

The wait must be awful for you - try to keep busy and try not to assume the worst until you know that to be the case. Things may be fine and if not you can cross that bridge when you come to it.

Sending positive thoughts

Hi,

Sorry your feeling so worried OP.
I don't have any experience will the NT results as they couldn't get any measurements at my scan, so I had the blood only tests which did come back as high risk. We opted for harmony testing which was a bit expensive but in my option was totally worth the money.

I know how anxious you are feeling and i was in bits for over a week, but try to stay busy and not worry yourself too much at the moment.

You sound like you have a great relationship with your wife which I think does help an awful lot in these situations. I know you don't want to worry her but I found a lot of comfort in discussing my worries with my DP, and think he found it helpful discussing his worries too. Try not to keep things bottled up.

Sending positive thoughts

Try not to worry. It's the higher end of normal but it's still normal. There's still a good chance you'll get a low risk result and that your baby will be absolutely fine.
I worried when my son's came back at 2.5 as my daughter's had been 1.5. I still got a risk in the thousands. I've read that higher readings often turn out to be boys, maybe you just have a strapping boy growing in there.
Not long to wait.