Anomaly scan next week and if we are asked whether we would like to find out sex I am still undecided.
This will be DC3, didn't find out with DS (1st) but did with DD (2nd). I have always thought I would not like to find out at the scan and prefer to wait until the birth as this will most probably be our last child. When DD was born, the next few weeks I'd had some feelings of regret about finding out early (a bit like that feeling if you've spied what you are getting for Christmas as a child), and although the birth itself I'm sure would've been the same, finding out at that point would have been great.
DC are are 6 and 4 and are quite clued up on whats happening. DS would like a brother and DD would like a sister. Obviously one of them will be let down! DH would like to find out for practical reasons. We have kept all of DCs clothes since birth, neatly packed away in the loft but we are running out of room. With a potential extension to the house on the cards we need to do a big sort out and get rid of the boy or girl clothes that are mounting up. I am swaying towards finding out the sex if possible but I don't want to have those feelings of regret. The other pro is that the DC can be prepared - DS says he cannot wait until the scan because he wants to find out! I am also finding it hard to be excited about this pregnancy, had previous mc and although things are going well I am apprehensive about the scan. But then I was with other DC but that maybe due to me working within paediatric cardiac surgery. I was wondering whether if we found out I would become more excited - or is this just because of it being DC3??? Do people get less excited the more babies you have? DH required some persuasion for this one and I feel that maybe to some extent he should have the decision on whether to find out as it was 'my idea' to have another DC.
Sorry for the long post, I am trying to work out what to do by writing it too! I have given a lot of pros for finding out though haven't I? Any opinions would be greatly received.