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5 weeks pregnant and turmoil in personal life making me feel so down

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Feelingstressed444 · 17/08/2017 20:10

I'm in such a state.
I've recently found out that I'm newly pregnant with my second baby and after months of being extremely broody, I was absolutely ecstatic when I found out. This quickly changed.
Over the weekend it was my first baby's 2nd birthday and we had a party with close family and friends. I have a very strained relationship with my mother in law and it erupted at the party when she violent grabbed my arm in rage during an argument over what time we were cutting the cake. I quickly reacted and said I don't touch me I'm pregnant, but she is so spiteful that she didn't care. My in-laws have always been hostile towards me but even more so since I had my first baby because they have resented me for not letting them babysit more or letting my baby sleep at their house when they believe it's their right.
For the rest of the party I was forced to put a brave face on, but at the end when everyone left, my father in law told my husband he was disgusted with my behaviour and that I was deliberately causing trouble and then my in-laws walked out and we haven't spoken since. My main issue is that even though my husband has said he is not bothered about having a relationship with his parents, I feel absolutely gutted, angry and bitter that this is how I've started my second pregnancy. I feel so down and lost and nobody understands how attacked I feel.

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SheSaidHeSaid · 17/08/2017 20:31

It sounds like your DH is supporting you by not wanting to see his parents either, I'd grab that with both hands and not see your PIL again, or at least not until they apologise and change their behaviour.

You're not missing out by removing these toxic people from your life and your children certainly won't.

Feelingstressed444 · 17/08/2017 21:19

Thanks so much for that positive advice. You are right -it is not fair on my children.

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WineAndTiramisu · 17/08/2017 22:21

You sound like you're better off without them!

Feelingstressed444 · 17/08/2017 22:25

You are so right- I think I needed to hear that.

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Mum2oneds · 19/08/2017 01:14

They would in no way be welcome in my house after that. No one whatsoever has the right to grab you like that, pregnant or not.
Enjoy your little family and leave them to their own devices. They'll either realise the error of their ways or be so deluded they think they are in the right.. Which is their loss as they miss out xxx

Feelingstressed444 · 19/08/2017 07:39

Thank you for that. You are very right xx

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