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Baby Number 3 - All stories please!

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uhohtrouble · 30/03/2007 12:06

Found out on Wednesday that baby number 3 will be arriving.

I am in shock and almost disbelief (I thought you had to have sex to get pg?!) and not sure of the whole situation, but i know I could never face the alternative.

Can I have some stories of going from 2-3 kids please, my DD's are at the moment 2.8 and 1.5yrs

ARGHHHHHHH

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octopussyinyummyeastereggs · 30/03/2007 12:17

Congratulations

I was in complete shock for about a week when found out about no.3 (due in two weeks) - has taken me a long time to get my head around it - hideous morning sickness and spd haven;t made it a happy pg I have to say. I am not overly worried about having 3 children at all or how it will all work - I am trying to figure out at the moment how to give them all time so no-one feels left out! Mine are a bit older now - ds2 is 3.9 so is at preschool - so do get time to myself/no.3.

When are you due - there is probably an antenatal club for you to join and maybe some mums in the same boat due at the same time.

Good luck

BrummieOnTheRun · 30/03/2007 12:51

was very depressed when I found out about number 3, but so far it's not half as bad as I thought it would be!

okay, it's only been 3 weeks, ha, ha, but am at height of sleep depravation and coping. mine are 3 and 15 months.

survival strategy so far has been based on investment in Phil & Teds pannier bags! They take a week's worth of stuff so we can stay out all day with 2 sizes of nappy, 2 changes of clothes, wipes, emergency bananas...you get the picture!

what issues are you worried about?

scorpio1 · 30/03/2007 12:56
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uhohtrouble · 30/03/2007 13:00

Its more the financial strain, and also the lack of time with each of them. DD1 will be at preschool for 5 sessions a week, I guess im interested to know all the coping strategies, im absolutely terrified of doing easy things like popping to the supermarket - maybe online shopping will replace that little pleasure!

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Jelley · 30/03/2007 13:07

My third is 13 months, but the older two are 6 and 7, so were both at school when he was born, which I found easier.

Babies are cheap (particularly ifyou kept all the big things, and breast feed )

We only have 2 bedrooms, which is becoming a problem, and not all cars cope with 3 car seats, so that is a big expense, potentially.

I leave them all with dp to shop - it is my only child free time, and I love it

We all manage with what we have, so don't worry too much.
Congratulations, and enjoy your pregnancy.

Jelley · 30/03/2007 13:07

My third is 13 months, but the older two are 6 and 7, so were both at school when he was born, which I found easier.

Babies are cheap (particularly ifyou kept all the big things, and breast feed )

We only have 2 bedrooms, which is becoming a problem, and not all cars cope with 3 car seats, so that is a big expense, potentially.

I leave them all with dp to shop - it is my only child free time, and I love it

We all manage with what we have, so don't worry too much.
Congratulations, and enjoy your pregnancy.

BrummieOnTheRun · 30/03/2007 13:29

here's the upside: we've got a perfect little newborn whose bum fits in your hand and curls up like a doormouse; the kids LOVE having a new sister (they call her 'little one'); and I'm glad there's going to be 3 of them rocking around together. I'm dying to see what her personality turns out like because the other 2 are very different and hilarious.

The elder 2 have teamed up, so seem very happy, and you get more time with the middle child once the oldest is at preschool.

Getting out was my main worry, however we have managed to squeeze 3 seats into a normal saloon-sized car which was a relief. Older MPVs seem to be about £4-5k, but we're going to hold out as long as poss.

Getting them all ready to leave the house is the most difficult part of getting out. Once you're out, you're out - key to retaining sanity methinks. We have a Phil & Teds, so can easily reconfigure depending on which kids are out with me. Have also invested in a sling so can 'wear' baby in cafes and breastfeed anywhere.

Tesco delivery man is a regular feature of my week. Don't have energy for any unnecessary trips. Save it for the park, soft play area, etc.

Sorry - that's probably too much detail and still working it out myself...but AM working it out. You cope!

FioFio · 30/03/2007 13:33

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octopussyinyummyeastereggs · 30/03/2007 13:35

aaahh brummie - thats what I'm holding out for - that cute little cuddly bundle all snuggled up snuffling away aaahhhhh

fannyannie · 30/03/2007 13:38

I'm 30 weeks pg with DC3 - totally unplanned and nearly wrecked my already faltering marriage when I knew that I couldn't get rid of it and told DH so. However, he's now looking forward to it - pg has been pretty good (so far), looking forward to 2 months off before he(we think) arrives and then.........well I'm trying not to think about how I'm going to cope with a 6yr old, a very boisterous and lively 3yr old and a newborn

BrummieOnTheRun · 30/03/2007 13:49

I was convinced that number 3 was going to be the end of my relationship. lots of 3am sessions bawling in the bathroom. first experience of proper depression. not sure if I just got over it (hormones?) or whether it was getting the hell out of inner london hell hole and moving somewhere child/parent friendly. needless to say, relationship fine and there WAS light at the end of the tunnel couldn't see it at the time.

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uhohtrouble · 30/03/2007 14:03

Thanks all.

Im not quite ready to come clean on who I am, but thanks for the advice so far.

Fio - you are describing me perfectly right now, am in utter shock and cant quite be happy about the fact.

Oh hell, why is the alternative so cruel?

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cupcakesgalore · 30/03/2007 14:41

Well done uhoh! My 3 are now 5 (nearly 6), 4 and 2 and the next is due in early July. I love having 3 and although the age gaps are small and DD was only 22 mos when her baby sister arrived, it is great now because they play so beautifully together. Our youngest is a dream of a baby and toddler - always smiley and in love with her big sister and brother. Congratulations - the only downside is being pregnant with 2 small ones. I'm finding that again now. You just have to hold on to the thought that having 3 under 4s is easier than being pg. with 2 small ones to run around after. Good luck witht he pregnancy.

PurpleLostPrincess · 30/03/2007 14:42

I'm pg with no.3 but I'm more nervous about starting all over again than having 3 children. Reading this, I'm so glad mine are older - they'll be 13 and 9 when this one arrives. I'm hoping they will be my helpers, they're really excited about it!

I admire all of you so much!

This one was 'a surprise' too and it took me and dh a good few weeks to get over the idea of it - not sure I'm completely over it to be honest but then I've always wanted another child deep down - I keep trying to convince myself that we'll cope!

mad4girls · 30/03/2007 20:05

hi jelley

i was just wondering whether your childrens room was a single or double as i have 2 girls will soon be 5 and 8 and just BFP couple of days ago so still early days but trying to work out the logistics as we also only have 2 bedrooms the childrens being a single room and a pretty stingy sized one at that they currently sleep in bunkbeds but previuosly had there own large rooms before we moved so have only just got used to sharing bout 12 months now

you got any space saving ideas you can share or big no nos as really panicking about finding/saving space
thanx

friendlyedjit · 30/03/2007 20:13

we have 3 gals- 7,4 and 2. There is no room with all the stuff...it's noisy, crowded but fab!!! I'd love a fourth!!
Don't think apart from the car seat thing and making sure you do a slightly more complete head count and item check leaving house its that much different!! Bed times slightly more challenging but aren't they always!
Good luck and comgratulations!!

Olihan · 30/03/2007 20:28

I'm 13 weeks into having 3 and so far it's been far easier than I thought it would be. About a million times easier than going from 1 to 2. Mine are slightly closer together than your will be - ds1 is 3.2, dd is 19 months and ds2 is 13 weeks so I had 3 under 3 for a few days! But even so, it's okay. I've managed to establish bf with ds2 (ff d1 and dd, just couldn't get bf established) which makes life a whole lot easier in terms of leaving the house, being out, etc. DS1 and Dd entertain each other a lot so I didn't have them demanding so much attention from me while I was feeding. New DVDs also helped!

Internet shopping is a god send, once you've done your first shop it's pretty quick, although I have done a week's shop with the 3 of them and survived .

DS1 started pre school 5 sessions a week straight after ds2 was born and that was great because he's occupied and being tired out while I get to spend time with dd, then dd has a nap in the afternoon so I get to spend time with ds1. DS2 just sort of slots in with everything - he doesn't have a choice!

It will be okay, I love having 3 and ds1 and dd adore their little brother, I would recommend a 3rd to anyone.

mad4girls · 30/03/2007 20:39

anyone with advice on 2 bedrooms is greatly appreciated
thanx guys hope you dont mind me lurking around

snipersmum · 30/03/2007 20:46

I am days (hopefully hours) away from having no 3 and have been flipping out quite a lot in the last week about it, and it did take me a LONG time to get my head around having 3, and lots of people were kind enough to share that they felt the saem at first. I am holding onto the hope that DS1 and 2 (3 and 20 months respectively) adore playing with each other at the moment and are already used to sharing me, so hopefully it will be better than going from 1 to 2. I am also far more relaxed about the fact the TV will be on a lot more in the early days. I have to say the pg was harder with 2 little ones to look after, and I will be glad when I get my body back. Good luck.

TrinityRhino · 30/03/2007 20:53

My dd's are 7 (yesterday), 2 (on the 10th of Aptil) and 7 weeks and 2 days.

I am still getting used to having 3 but it has got alot easier in the last couople of weeks. I think it does take some time to come to terms with. I permanantly felt like I seriously didn't have enough hadns for the first week or so but starting to feel a little more in control now
CONGRATULATIONS, it'll be great

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uhohtrouble · 30/03/2007 22:17

Thank you all for all the supportive messages.

I know it will work out, and I will cope - because I have to!

Fingers crossed for and "easy" pregnancy this time though!

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jersey · 31/03/2007 21:22

Hi, I am 12 weeks preg with no 3 and already have a 2.8 yr old and 8 month old who will be 3.3 yrs and 1.3 yrs when this one arrives. We decided to go for no 3 as I will be 36 when this one is born and didn't want to leave things much later in case I didn't conceive straight away and also the risks increase.

I am working on the basis that DS1 will be in pre school mornings and DS2 will be in playgroup a couple of mornings a week.

Apart from that I am trying not to think to much about it, and hoping (as still awaiting 1st scan) that it isn't twins!!!

We have a jane powertwin from when DS2 was born as DS1 was exactly 2 and one day. This can be used with a baby car seat and for a toddler and can be swapped around. DS1 is walking a lot now, but when using the single pushchair at the moment we have a buggy board for DS1 if he gets tired. This could go on the double pram if needed as well. We have everything else so unless its a girl when outwear in girly colours will be needed we are fairly much sorted.

Good luck. Where abouts are you in the country? If you want to keep in touch I will let you have my email address as I think our kids will be very similar in age.

jersey · 31/03/2007 21:23

P.S. It is exhausting being preg and DS2 teething, DS1 & DS2 full of cold as well as myself.