So stressed

[Emxo1]

hi so basically I'm 27 weeks pregnant.

My EDD is 13th November.

I had a miscarriage in December last year and absolutely fell apart, i also have borderline personality disorder, all I can think is I'm gonna lose my baby!

i now have a new worry and it is constantly on my mind it's tearing me apart..

before me and my current boyfriend got together I ended up sleeping with someone on the 22nd January. I had a heavy period on 4th Feb for about 3/4 days my periods are usually longer. I then took a pregnancy test on 28th Feb which was negative (5weeks after intercourse)

Me and my current boyfriend has sex a few times between 14-22 Feb.

I took a test on 11th march which was positive. I then took a clear blue which said 2-3 weeks pregnant so that suggests conception 16-23 Feb which sounds about right.

I had a scan on 24th march which put me at 6 weeks 2 days which dates back to around the time of my period And a due date of 18th novwmber. My dating scan was at 13 weeks and 3 days on 11th may giving me EDD 13 November, so I would of conceived around 20th Feb and my period from that says 6th. All the dates add up, also had a 16 week 4d scan

So my question is can I bee 100% the baby is my partners? There is a 4 week gap as if it was the other lads counted from periods there is 4 week didference! Just so paranoid but surely all of that couldn't be wrong by so far out?

If you had a heavy period and then a negative pregnancy test I'd say it was very unlikely you got pregnant that time. But the only way to be 100% sure is a DNA test. Try not to worry about it any more.

I just can't stop worrying, I've still got 13 weeks left and I know I won't be able to afford a DNA, just keep telling myself surely all of that can't be wrong but can't seem to convince myself!

Hi Emx,

Please don't worry! It's not possible for your dates to be out that much, as you had scans early in development. A six and ten week old embryo look completely different and early ultrasound dating is accurate (it can be a few days out but not a whole month) if the embryo stopped growing it could have been uncertain when it did but your's is growing perfectly in there!

You might hear about people's due dates changing but that's not necessarily to do with the conception date.

Honestly - you don't need a DNA test 😊 Think about IVF - if a woman doesn't conceive one cycle she wouldn't expect to suddenly conceive with the same embryo four weeks later after she'd had a period

Thank you :) I just overthink everything but did think surely they couldn't confuse a 6 week with 10 week! Just worried as the period I had didn't last as long as usual and when I spoke to my midwife she said the only way to be certain is a DNA test but I can't deal with worrying for another 13 weeks as I'm depressed as it is :(
The lad in January was meant to be a friend yet he plied me with alcohol and waited until I was unable to say yes or no to have sex with me and I'm now left with this huge worry which is preventing me to enjoy my pregnancy!