Pregnant...and hating it. Sorry long!

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I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant with my first-not planned but a welcome surprise. I'm 25 been with my partner a long time and we both have good jobs with decent pay.

I was so excited about starting our little family until the past week or so. I feel crap all of the time; sick, tired, dizzy and my brain just doesn't seem to want to function properly.

I've not gone to work today as I feel so shit but staying at home is making me feel worse!

If I can't cope with being pregnant this early on how am I going to cope with being a mum? I feel so guilty but I really just hate being pregnant.

Sorry for rant, just need to know I'm not alone on feeling like this and not an awful mother before it's even begun!

You are not alone, early pregnancy sucks at times. To be honest I found weeks 8 to 10 the worst in terms of sickness and feeling awful, it does get better and before you know it you are in the 2nd trimester and usually feel back to normal and quite good. Some women glow but I never did. Try and use the time off work to just chill and try and eat regularly. It will pass soon

I feel you!! I'm 13+4 , always though I wanted 2 kids..... but now no! I hate being pregnant :( feel bad for it but it's true!

The first trimester was the hardest for me. I just felt so tired, and achy, and nauseous, and bloated and distracted and generally shit. I think that's quite normal.

Remember as well that you are chock-full of hormones right now, you're still sustaining the foetus directly from your own blood stream. As soon as the placenta takes over (12 weeks or so), you should start to feel a bit better.

I'm 22 weeks pregnant with our very much planned very much wanted (IVF conceived) baby. I've never been so grateful for something I hate so much in my life!

Pregnancy is tough going, you can't just stop growing the baby for a couple of hours so you can get on with something else, your body is diverting a lot of its energy into growing something 24/7.

Don't beat yourself up for not enjoying it, it doesn't mean you'll be a bad mum. And I'm certain we'll think it was all worth it once our babies arrive!

I'm sure you've already heard as well but the second trimester is so much easier than the first. I've got severe pelvic girdle pain which started at about 14 weeks but I still feel loads better than I did for the first 12 weeks. The sickness passes, as does the tiredness and you start to feel a bit more normal again. Look after yourself in the meantime and congratulations on your pregnancy

Thank you all for your replies, I feel a bit better knowing I'm not alone! And slightly less crazy!

Congrats Rogue!

I don't understand how people choose to do this multiple times, my mum had 4 of us! I suppose that must mean that it is all worth it in the end but right now I am struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel...march seems like a lifetime away!

Hang in there, the first trimester is awful. Odds are you won't feel this crap for your entire pregnancy. I'm pregnant with #2 and in both cases around 13/14 weeks the fog lifted and I was able to function like a normal person again. A larger, slower moving person, but my energy levels and appetite returned.

Another pregnancy hater here (currently 18+5). I had a moan to a good friend recently who told me I should 'stop moaning and be grateful'.

It's so tough. I felt super sick for 13 weeks, still feeling tired, my back hurts, I am not nearly as strong as I was in the gym, I feel fat, my boobs are enormous which makes me feel frumpy, and the constant sense checking of what you can and cannot eat is unbearable.

I spoke to my dr and got an anti sickness remedy - it transformed my life, I could go to work and cope.

Hi OP. Congratulations.

We fell pregnant almost 'accidentally on purpose' with no great plan if DH and I fell pregnant, we just did.
What a silly idea! I was unprepared.

I fell in about 2/3 months. It was horrible. I didn't really have many symptoms so I worried constantly, had reassurance scans and started to get used to the ideas.

Then the crippling 'what if I lose the baby' anxiety started. Baby is healthy. Even got the gender we wanted! Very lucky.

I'm now 33+4 and as SICK AS A DOG. vomiting constantly. Can't walk around too much because of the weight of baby on my bloody fanny.

Pregnancy isn't fun! Some women sail through it, some struggle. Some women wish more than anything that they can get pregnant.

All feelings are valid but right now, it's okay to hate it! (Even though you will be told how lucky you are blah blah)

You will be ok x

And the anti sickness meds don't work for me! Pregnancy is crap.

But they might work for you! Try them! And good luck x

I felt the same as you in the first trimester then second trimester felt absolutely amazing! Up until about 30 weeks when I started slumping again. I'm now 37 weeks and am completely done with this pregnancy. I'm hot, tired and uncomfortable! So make the most of second trimester before it gets hard again 😂

I hated most of pregnancy. Between 20 and 30 weeks I enjoyed it - feeling the baby kick is wonderful - but the rest is bad. Up to halfway I felt sick, tired, dizzy and bloated, after 28 weeks I felt huge, unattractive, uncomfortable and exhausted.

I tried to focus on the few positives - I was growing a lovely human, for starters! My hair and nails grew SO fast and very shiny and thick. Skin has never been so clear and lovely, I completely stopped wearing foundation-type makeup as I didn't feel like I needed it any more, which was nice.
Also focusing on the idea that I'd soon have a little person to snuggle and squish, and time off work to do this, helped me get through.

The last 4 weeks were awful, I went ten days overdue and was so pissed off and uncomfortable. Started getting worried I'd resent the baby after not enjoying being pregnant. Labour was long and enduring, painful, swore I'd never do it again.

Baby is now 3 days old, absolutely beautiful- I can't stop tearing up just looking at her. She's amazing and wonderful. I already want to do it all again. Not a single regret. Sounds cliché but I swear as soon as they put the baby on your chest it makes it all worth it, every horrible second.

Try to focus on the positives as much as possible and just get through it day by day, although I know it feels like forever! I promise it's worth it. X

I said the same and swore I'd never do it again, 2nd trimester gets better like pp have said but it's still not fantastic. I swore I'd never get pregnant again even though I've always wanted 3. The day after ds was born I said I'd do it again, pregnancy and being a parent are both difficult obviously but I much prefer being a parent to being pregnant.

It can be a pretty rough ride, but you just have to stick with it - the end will come around quicker than you realise, although it'll feel like you're clawing your way through every minute of every day.

I had hyperemesis, which eventually wore off at about 20 weeks but was immediately replaced by crippling SPD... I still throw up regularly, the acid reflux is disgusting, even sleep hurts because of the SPD, but at almost 38 weeks, having just started mat leave, the end is in sight and I've just started washing little man's stuff - the reality of it all is starting to hit home in the best way. You WILL get there and you CAN do this! Have faith, ride out the rough and remind yourself every day that you will have the best gift at the end of it all! ❤️

I hated being pregnant more than giving birth, first time around (not to say giving birth was fun). I had a relatively easy start , vague nausea, no vomiting, but the last two months are horrible for sleeping, hip pain, cramp and massiveness.

I didn't hold it against my son, but I wasn't going to have any more children, and I was firm for five years. I wanted him to have a sibling though, and making them yourself is the easiest way. I'm 30 weeks now, looking forward to the worst part!

Early pregnancy is a bag of dicks. I was about 18 weeks before I started feeling truly human. Even now I have daily hell of one thing or another. It gets better. Apparently.

My first pregnancy was an absolute breeze compared to this. Ugh.

I went into work this afternoon (I have a very supportive boss who knows but haven't officially told he yet) to just get myself out of the house. I'm absolutely knackered but feel slightly better in myself, more like the functioning adult that i am supposed to be rather than sitting around feeling sorry for myself.

Thank you all for your replies, I know it is going to be better and all worth it in the end! ❤

I'm 35 weeks and still feel like crap, sorry. It does pass, and the exhaustion got better ( for a while!) .

It's only temporary. Just try take it one day at a time!

Hi!!

I'm 25, currently 31 weeks into my fist pregnancy (was a surprise too)! I can honestly say the first 12 weeks were the hardest (and dragged the longest) but it did get a lot better I'm only now starting to feel slightly uncomfortable and slowing down and more tired again (but nothing like in the first trimester). I'm terrified and excited in equal measure too but I'm sure you will be a fantastic mum so try not to worry xxx

It's strange but I felt completely crap but then almost overnight when I got to about 10 weeks or just over I felt so much better. You never know, you must be the same and it'll be short lived.

Hang in there. I had severe sickness and around 11 weeks it peaked, it gets better. From 15 weeks I've been absolutely fine and enjoyed it!

I always say pregnancy is the worst illness in the world! I hate it from the minute I conceive until labour begins! I've still done it 4 times though-the end result is worth the 9 months of hell.