Early scan stress

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Hi. So I had an early scan (paid privately just because I'm a worrier and wanted reassurance) on Sunday. Saw a heartbeat but it was measuring only 4mm and they dated it 6 weeks. We got pregnant first try and I was tracking ovulation with digital OPK so I know that I must have ovulated at least a week before so that would make it 7 weeks. Also, the baby book I'm reading seems to suggest that at 6 weeks it is 4mm (so bang on) but that's 6 weeks from LMP rather than 6 weeks from conception.

I am REALLY worried it is not growing as I reckon they are a week to 10 days out. And I've had really sore boobs and bad morning sickness but now seem to be ok this morning. Am not quite sure what to do. Have MF booking appointment Sunday but going slowly insane.

I do have a retroverted uterus which I've read can make it difficult to measure (and we had to have an internal scan because he couldn't see it using normal US, he said because of my tilted uterus) but likewise I've also read that tilted uterus makes no difference on measurements.

Am so worried, esp as am almost 39. This is first pregnancy. Not sure what to do. Any ideas?

I had a scan when I was 8 weeks with my last pregnancy and they put me back to 7 weeks. I too knew when I ovulated etc so worried a lot but at my 12 week scan they put me a week forward again

Congratulations on your pregnancy! For what it's worth (and I know this is easy for me to say) I would try not to worry until a professional tells you otherwise, especially in the first trimester which can feel so full of uncertainty. I measured a week "behind" at my early scan- I had to have one at EPU as I had bleeding at what I believed was 7 weeks pregnant but was then dated as 6 weeks and 4mm! at the scan. At that early stage baby is so small- 4mm is tiny!- that even the tiniest inaccuracy in the measurement taken will throw the gestation date by days. I'm now 32 weeks so it's all been ok for me and I know so many people who went for an early scan (or even the 12 week scan) and were told different dates to what they believed, it's very common.

Believe me I know it's hard OP but try to reassure yourself that today you are pregnant and will continue to be until anyone can concretely tell you otherwise. Pregnancy signs will come and go all the time (I had none whatsoever until 9 weeks and even then to this day I haven't had sore boobs or half the typical 'signs' people feel they need to have!) The first 12 weeks feels the longest in my experience and you're already over half way through that, unless you get bad cramps and bleeding I'd keep going forward in the belief that all's well, it most likely is 😊 xx

Thanks for your comments ladies - means a lot. Will try v hard not to stress and not to read even more! I am feeling queasy again so that's good (even though it's not!). Also have to think that I am a fighter so reckon this baby must be too.

Also found out today that my cousin (female) is having a little girl in Jan and her brother and his girlfriend are having a baby in Feb! So presuming tinks (my name for the bean) sticks we will all have kids around same age! Such lovely news x

So, I was right to stress. It had stopped developing and I went on to have a MMC (though only tipped off as small amount of bleeding). I will never again listen to the professionals when I am so sure of my dates.

So sorry for your loss. Big hugs and kisses

I am so sorry you had to go through this. I only saw this thread now, but I had a similar experience back in March/April. I paid for a private scan, which dated me at only 5 weeks. But I knew when I ovulated and I was 8 weeks and there was no question at all about dates. I think they do try to stay hopeful and not immediately say there is any cause for concern and to bring you back for a follow up scan, as so many women just don't know their dates precisely. But I think when you know, you know. I knew immediately that something wasn't right and actually I'd felt my whole pregnancy that something wasn't right (which was why I booked the scan). I hope you are taking care of yourself and taking some time to heal. It's a horrible thing to go through and I felt broken after. But it does get easier in time. I had a d&c in April (after waiting 6 weeks for the mc to happen naturally) and I was pregnant again in May. I'm now 16 weeks with a healthy baby and have had an easy, straightforward pregnancy, which has been incredibly healing. Sending you some

I'm so sorry to read this OP. I only just saw the thread. Exactly the same thing happened to me - I was sure of my dates but baby was measuring a week out, then two weeks. I had a scan every week from 6-11.5 weeks and although the baby developed, it was slow, and eventually the heartbeat we saw at 8 weeks finally stopped. I felt the whole way through that something wasn't right but they kept insisting that while it was developing, it meant everything was fine, and family and friends said the same. I knew it wasn't. It was the worst experience of my life.

It won't help much now but the miscarriage boards here are wonderful. My MMC was back in October and I'm now almost 20 weeks into my second pregnancy which has been entirely uncomplicated. I really hope the same happens for you (if you want it to).

Thinking of you at this horrible time.

Sorry, just read the first post and didn't read on. Very sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage first pregnancy and I'm now pregnant at 21 weeks but I remember how awful it was to go through and never thought I'd be pregnant again. Take time to heal xxx

@dinnerlady1 - thank you x

@AnUtterIdiot - thank you and sorry for your loss too. x

@mindutopia - thank you and sorry for your loss too. Massive congrats on a healthy pregnancy this time around! x

@peachgreen - thank you and sorry for your loss too. Massive congrats to you also on a healthy pregnancy this time around!

@thingymaboob - thank you and sorry for your loss too. Great news re your healthy pregnancy! x

So glad that some have had happy stories to post and hope everyone else has some happy stories soon too.

Trying to stay positive and hoping, as we got pregnant first go last time, it won't take too long but just want to get on with it now. Read earlier someone said miscarriage is a time thief - they are so right.