Hi,
I'm just gone 11 weeks pregnant , I've known since really early on. I called my doctors surgery to book an appointment when I was around 5 weeks they told me there was no point in calling until I was 10 weeks gone (first pregnancy so naively took their word for it) when I called up when I was 10 weeks I was then told "if you are 10 weeks you have left it far too late to let us know there's nothing we are able to do for you here , you will have to ring the hospital and let them know" I was so angry that they had misadvised me and are now telling me they will not be helping me at all. I booked an appt under a false reason and broke down to my doctor , I've been so ill and in and out of OOH care , I was admitted to hospital for HG and given medication. I was given an emergency midwife appt for the next day , the midwife I seen was lovely but told me I wouldn't be getting blood tests until my 12 week appointment (obviously I've had no tests yet) so I was worried about that. She told me she had sent my referral letter for my 12 week scan and to phone in 7 days to book. As the appointment was really short I barely had the chance to speak to her and was told I'd have to have the 2nd part a week later . At the 2nd appt I seen a different midwife who confirmed I should phone that day to book my scan as they should have my letter by now .I really didn't like the 2nd midwife any questions I had I was simply told "don't worry about it" and felt like she couldn't wait to get rid of me. When I asked her who my main point of contact and named midwife will be she told me I wouldn't have one as the previous midwife had gone on maternity leave I will most likely be seeing and speaking to different people I hate the idea of this especially as it's my first pregnancy and everything is so new to me. So I phone to book my scan in (I'm now 11 weeks by this point) and am told that they have not yet received my referral letter so I won't be able to book my scan I will have to speak to my midwife ( baring in mind I don't have one ) I phoned the office and because the person who is supposed to have sent it is now off on maternity leave , they're not really sure and I am waiting for a call back. I'm so worried it's going to need to be resent , wait another week to go by then wait for however long for my actual appointment. I have had no scan, no tests and no advice on anything combined with being so ill so far I hate to say it but I have hated every second of this so far and feel so let down by the people who are supposed to be caring for me . What can I do to make this better for myself?