Telling older children

[AmiShaw]

Soooo... at what point did you all tell your children you were pregnant again ?! Mine are 11,8 and 6.. I planned on waiting until Xmas and Santa leaving a letter but I think I will be showing too much by then and they are old enough to notice .. obviously want to wait until after 12 week scan .. but dying to tell them now 😱🙈

You'll be surprised at what they don't notice, if you want to go with the Santa letter! We didn't tell our 8 and 5 year old until after the 20 week scan (nor anyone else for that matter, due to a late loss previously), I'd worn tunics and leggings etc, my oldest just said he thought I'd been eating too much cake!

Really? My eldest was 5 when I was expecting my youngest and she noticed and asked me very early on - way before 5 months, or whatever you'll be by Christmas. Also won't an 11 year old be a bit about receiving that information in a letter from Father Christmas Santa - suitable for the 6 year old perhaps but an 11 year old deserves to be treated in a more mature way.

I just told dc1 she was right when she asked if I was pregnant, and dc2 was listening so joined in the conversation... No big dramatic reveal. Kids told everyone else which saved us having to deal with the "why are you having another when you already have one of each?" nonsense quite as often.

I told my five year old straight away and she came to 12 week scan. I can see why you would wait until after 12 week scan. 11 is probably too old for a letter from Santa though

I have an 11 year old and 8 year old. I had to tell them fairly early on but that was after having an early scan. I told them because I was suffering from terrible morning sickness and couldn't hide it from them. They were starting to worry that something was wrong with me, so I had to put their minds at rest.

Oh no I would tell the eldest separately (maybe bedtime Xmas eve ) if I wait that long

I'm just finding it really hard to keep something from them when there are never any secrets normally in our household 🤔

Would you find out the sex of the baby? If so, why not tell your children after the 12 week scan so you don't feel like you are hiding it for ages. But then you could reveal the sex to them at Xmas so you still get to do a nice surprise?

At the moment I don't want to find out the sex .. argghh will just talk to hubby and see how he feels about it all