Anyone else sick of being told they're massive?

[PinkHippo1]

Hi All,

I'm 27 weeks now and I'm starting to get fed up of people telling me I'm huge already! I love having a bump and I am proud of it but now starting to feel self conscious. Some work colleagues tell me I'm looking good but others seem to enjoy laughing at me publicly like I'm some kind of freak show. In Marks last week the lady at the check out looked shocked when I said I was 26 weeks and said "oh you're going to be huuuuge!!" Then in Sainsbury's yesterday the check out lady said " well there's a girl who works here that's pregnant and due before you, and she's nowhere near your size".

This is my first baby so I am surprised at how big I am. I've got my 28 week midwife appointment next week where I'll be measured which will hopefully put my mind at rest. I was a healthy BMI before getting pregnant and have put on an average amount of weight. Anyone else had a big bump from early on with baby number 1??

^Whoops - I had two similar threads open and posted that on the wrong one. So my comments don't really make sense. Sorry.

No, it fitted here perfectly too

12 weeks, and people constantly thinking I only have a few months to go, and the twins/triplets comments aplenty. It begins . . .

Congrats OP, you look like some people do at 12 weeks to me!

Just wanted to send you empathy hugs @PinkHippo1. I've had the same experience also from around 26 weeks+ (now 32 weeks) with people asking me when I'm due and when I've said "not until October" cue the shock face and comments about how huge I am. Had it from strangers, colleagues, in-laws, you name it! It did really get me down at one stage, I think starting to go to antenatal things such as swimming and yoga has helped as meeting other mums to be who all have vastly different sized bumps at a similar stage of pregnancy has helped me feel less self-conscious about mine. I think the people that make the massive comments just don't think before they speak! xx

At my Bday party when I was 34 weeks my MIL just kept saying "I've never seen such a big bump". The actual comment didn't really bother me, I did have a big bump but it was the constant shouting every 5 minutes whilst I was trying to speak to my guests.

Everyone told me I must be carrying twins/got my dates wrong. I just smiled and said yes you're probably right and walk off.

I looked ready to drop at 4 months with my first. With my second people didn't even know I was prevnant at 6 months.
The amount of times people asked me 'sis it twins', I'll bet it's twins.
Fine, bet me your savings then, because I'm broke!

I used to etc these comments, even when I was losing weight and my bump was shrinking (long story), especially at work for some reason. I used to preempt the comment by saying something along the lines of: "why do people think it's OK to comment about the way you look, it's beyond me, people can be so rude " etc

I get this everyday at work. My manager takes great pride in going 'woah' at me every time she is in.....i also get compared to every person who has ever had a baby in the company 'X's bump wasnt thay big and she was having a boy too'. 'Your much bigger than X and you have 6 weeks to go' argh. I love my bump. I hate those people.

What i would love to say....For a start i know i am big and pregnant. I am carrying the bloody thing. I can feel my size EVERYTIME i move. Secondly there is a baby in there. Its baby sized + a load of gunky water crap to keep it going. Thirdly...kindly piss off. Being nearly 8 months preg means i have literally no tolerance for stupid comments. The end.

Rant over

I has this all the way through my pregnancy with my son. I told one lady how many weeks I was and she replied with "has anyone told your baby that?". I also the same with just simple "oh your huge" and "your baby is going to be a healthy weight". Every week someone made some comment, it did really get to me and I wanted to finish work as soon possible. So I cannot offer any advice as I tried to ignore it and laugh it offer, however it did still get to me. I hope you are able to ignore and enjoy your pregnancy.

I got it a lot with my first. I was 25/26 and worked in a hospital, filled with middle aged women who were obviously experts. Commenting in literally everything I ever said,or did, how big I was etc. I was big. My bump was gigantic, and my arse grew to match it. Wound me up something chronic, but I just kept telling myself they had babies like a hundred years ago so their opinion was totally invalid. A favourite of theirs was 'you're pregnant, not ill' how about pipe it down! I still hold rage for them. I'm not working at the moment, and this time people are being quite nice to me. Even though I know I am already massive and I'm 22 weeks ha!

I hate the constant comments! I'm 29 weeks and think my bump isn't very big compared to others at the same stage, measuring on the small side according to midwives. Yet i still get people telling me I am huge and they can't believe I've got until October. I've put on no weight anywhere other than my belly so of course it looks bloody big compared to my usual size 10 self!

I walked into a staff meeting and one person exaggerated her movements as she changed seats saying 'rainbow's here make sure she has a row of chairs not just one'.
The boss then said through a fit of giggles 'we were saying earlier how you're as wide as you are tall now'

I also met a friend when I was about 20 weeks or so and she said at least you look pregnant now as opposed to just being fat.

I hate confrontation and my aunt told me to look these people in the eye and say 'what do you mean?' And after every comment just repeat..'I'm sorry I don't get what you're saying, could you explain?'

Apparently it works, they don't know what to say back and they look stupid, but I was always too much of a wimp to say it!

You should take no notice of what people say.Most times when people are excited they can say the most rediculous things.My midwife said I was huge at 20 weeks pregnant and asked whether I had fibroids.To my knowledge I hadn't.My son did weight 8 pounds 10 ounces at birth and went on to be quite stocky (he's 18 now)..but it could also be that you have a lot of amniotic fluid because I know family members who were "huge" and the baby was small but then again it could be that you're having a heavy baby.But at any rate take no notice of what people say and try to enjoy your pregnancy..x

I went to a job interview and mentioned to another candidate that I was on maternity leave. He asked me when the baby was due. Errrrr '9 months ago' - the rude comments keep coming after pregnancy -oh and I didn't even look pregnant!!!!

A colleague once followed me down the corridor and asked 'are you carrying that baby in your arse ?'

Just tell people to sod off or ignore.

People love commenting, even after the birth, I got 'oh, you'll lose weight easily once you get out with the pram', etc.

What makes you think I wanna lose weight? You think I'm fat or something?

Fuck off to the far side of fuck.

I'm quite "fortunate" in the sense that both DH and I are quite tall (he's around 6ft2) so for people I don't know well I can just go 'Yeah, DH is big so unlucky me' and people I do know well I can just go 'You've seen both me and DH, right? And you expected the baby to be SMALL?!?"

I also just assume these people know nothing about pregnancy because, if they did, they'd also know that the surge of hormones has made the concept of 'rational' a thing of the past and such comments put them at serious risk of a slap, a lot of yelling, a lot of crying or, just for funsies, all three.

But more seriously, the person who tends to 'joke' about my size the most is a distant friend who I've learnt through others has a particularly heartbreaking infertility story. Some of her comments are particularly unkind and jarring but I also think she feels uncomfortable around pregnant women so I don't particularly want to call her out on it either...

In the words of my dad:

"Everyone thinks they know about education because they've been to school. Everyone thinks that they're an expert on babies because they were a baby once".

'Christ you're fat' by ex MIL when I was 20 weeks pg with twins. Followed by 'my mum was a twin but the other one died!' While on bedrest for placental tear (they got tied in a tangle) but arrived fine and big at 36 weeks.

A colleague if mine, mother if one, when I told her I was 20 weeks, said she wasn't that big at 9 months. And then asked me for an explanation!

Felt I had to defend my bump!

I'm currently 39 weeks and other than meeting my baby I just can't wait for the comments to stop.

I've had family members I haven't seen for a month or so literally gasp when I've walked in a room.

I find cashiers the worst! To the point I'll walk up and down to find either a male cashier or a miserable looking one. They tend to leave me be and don't feel the need to comment!

Working with all males up until 37 weeks was rather testing!! A colleague even came up to me privately after an antenatal appointment to make sure everything was ok as "weren't you concerned about how big you were getting?" I had never even muttered anything like this!!!

Just shut up, it's never been appropriate to mention my size before, nothing has changed!!

Hey @pinkhippo yes I'm 27+2 and been hearing a lot of this, none of it intended maliciously though I don't think. I was a 10-12 and just over 9st before, have put on a stone but all bump and boobs, nowhere else!

My 2 most usual scenarios:

• Oh my that's a huge bump

me: well I was so petite before that there's really nowhere else for it to go, is there?!

• Are you sure there's only one in there?

me: well the docs & midwives have only seen one so unless you know better than them then yes, I'm sure!

😂😂😂

Yes MissT cashiers are the worst!!! I like that people want to discuss my pregnancy and wish me luck etc, but I'm starting to dread the "when are due" question as my answer is always swiftly followed by a look of shock and horror on their faces...

Thanks to all for the supportive comments on here

Walking down the street this evening with a few NCT friends (so four pregnant women) and someone walked by and said "watch out, here come the teletubbies!"