Baby shower

[lydiangel83]

Hi I was wondering if I could ask for advice. My friends want to show me a baby shower and I do want to see them all but less keen on the present giving / game playing bit. I have a feeling people will bring pressies and I know someone who had a 'build the baby's librbary' theme so everyone bought a children's book that means something to them. I thought that sounded nice.

Does anyone have any other ideas for baby shower themes (we don't know sex) that I could gently hint at to me friend please?

Ps hope I don't sound ungrateful I am really touched just don't want lots of baby pressies for the sake of it and am a bit superstitious in that I'd prefer baby pressies after baby arrives safely x

Go for an afternoon tea with friends but say to the friend that IF anyone would like to get you a gift to wait until after the baby is born. If someone said that to me I wouldn't have an issue with it.

That's exactly why I don't want one. It's weird I would feel very uncomfortable with people bringing gifts etc and I feel like some people do baby showers to gain gifts.. Obviously no everyone is like that.
I would much rather if people want to buy a gift for the baby once it's born then that's their choice more than they'd feel obliged at a shower. Then me and dp would open it together rather than me iyswim.. I think they are a lovely idea but to me it's uncomfortable xx

@chipscheeseandgravy that's exactly what I said but my friend doesn't understand it!

If you don't want a shower, tell the friend who is planning it exactly that.

Say you'd love to have a celebratory party, but not a shower as you don't want gifts.

If she won't change from shower to another form of party, then you'll have to tell her you'd prefer nothing (and I completely agree with you about not buying pressies before the babe has arrived)

She sounds like my friend. I hate baby showers ... my friend threw one for me when I was about 38 weeks pregnant. It was baking hot and I was the size of a whale.i was not impressed.
If you do get gifts just say you appreciate the gifts, but would prefer to wait until the baby is safely here before opening them and keep them at a relatives house. Then once bubbs has arrived send a personal message/ Text to each person thanking them for the gift.
If you really feel that you don't want one tell your friend you won't go... if it's a superstition thing definitely don't go. Or text the people who are going and tell them directly that you don't want gifts. A few will probably still bring one, but just save them till the baby arrives.